spicerp Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I recently met an attractive woman at a meditation centre. The first time I saw her she smiled and her eyes followed me across the room. I went to her and chatted for about ten minutes. The smile and the eyes stayed on me and she spoke with a soft, inviting voice. A few days later I saw her again and spent some time chatting with her. The next day I followed this up with an invitation to a date. The reply was the old 'I'm not sure', which of course means 'no,' but it was still delivered with the full-on eye contact and the soft, inviting voice. It seems eye contact and body language are not sure guides to how a woman feels, as the flirt books suggest.
salparadise Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 The reply was the old 'I'm not sure', which of course means 'no,' but it was still delivered with the full-on eye contact and the soft, inviting voice. There is naturally going to be some variation in terms of eye contact and body language, but that doesn't mean it doesn't count. It's more reliable than words. And "not sure" is not the same as a flat no either. On OKC there is a question that asks, does NO always means NO? The options are: 1) Always. Period. 2) Mostly, occasionally it's really a Yes in disguise 3) A No is just a Yes that needs a little convincing! 4) Never, they all want me. They just don't know it. I wrote an explanation: "Women always answer "always-period." Who are we kidding? Sometimes no means... not yet, I want you to work harder and show how persistent you can be; I'm going to take this opportunity to tease you mercilessly; being pursued is extremely gratifying to my ego and I intend to milk this for all it's worth; I need to think of myself as demure; we both know I'm going to do you, but it will be fun to build tension until you're ready to explode. Getting past a series of no's is something a guy has to learn if he doesn't want be a virgin his whole life. Women, you should fess up on this one." For a guy, you have to decide based on how interested she seems irrespective of the words, and whether or not she's worth jumping through however many hoops she's holding up as she smiles and maintains lingering eye contact.
mortensorchid Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 You can't always rely on things like that. It is something very basic to be sure, but some take it the wrong way or whatever else. This story sounds like what the first poster said "she was just trying to get attention", otherwise why would she have even said hello back to you? I was in a bar years ago, sitting by myself sipping my drink when I am looking around the room. I turned to the right and see this guy sitting a few empty seats down from me. I made eye contact, smiled a bit, then he was up like a shot and next to me. You could almost see the desperation in his eyes and smell it on him, and it was creepy. I got up immediately and walked away no questions asked. So no, one should not rely on things like that at all times.
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