Seachelle1 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Today I needed proof of my name change and had to call my ex husband about the paperwork. I hadn't spoken to him in 6 months. He tends to hurt me when we speak so I avoid speaking with him. We spoke for awhile this time. It was mainly him talking. He told me he was still in love with me and that I was "the love of my life." I have moved on from him and didn't know what to say. When he asked me if I'd been seeing anyone there was a long, awkward pause before I told him, yes, I had dated. The story on him was that I was going through significant trauma and upheaval when I married him. I moved to a midwestern town, his hometown, for a year after we married. I hated it. I couldn't stand the closed-minded way of being. (I remember bursting into tears when I saw a bumper sticker that said "Learn English or Go Back To Your Own Country" turning to him, and begging him to move to a different place. He went out and bought me a cat in response. I had no friends except for him.) He also turned into a raging drunk when we married. He did hit me a few times. He broke my glasses which I kept for proof if I were to go to court. On my part, I was sad. It is very hard to date sad people. We could never have anything again. I feel terrible and partly responsible for the pain here. Words of advice? Anyone?
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