turnerik Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 We dated for 3 1/2 years. Shes 18, I'm 20. She broke up with me a month ago. She said she needed more time with her friends, and its her senior year of high school. She told me it was a break, and that we would get back together. We talk a few times a week thru texting, or we see each other. a about 1 1/2 weeks ago we went to the zoo together, had an amazing time. No physical contact except a hug at the end of the day. She said she needs more time and space, but she doesn't want me to date anyone, and she's not going to date anyone. I guess the reason I'm struggling is because of the unknown. I always wonder if she thinks about me at all, if she still loves me, if she even cares about me, does she think about us ever. How she can see someone holding hands walking down the road, and not have your stomach turn because that's what happens to me. I don't know if I should just stop all contact, or continue to try and go out with her. I have changed myself a lot, and I want her to be able to see that. I don't push to go out anymore, I ask, just once and if she says maybe, I ask a few days later.
CC12 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I don't know if I should just stop all contact, or continue to try and go out with her. I think you should let her know that this arrangement isn't working for you and that you're uncomfortable with not knowing what might happen. Tell her that you want to get back together and if she doesn't want that, then you'll have to break up completely and move on. What she's doing is really not fair to you. She doesn't want to be with you now but she also doesn't want you to move on. She wants you to be available to her when she decides to pick you back up. And she might end up deciding that she never wants to get back together. That's a very real possibility. What she's asking of you is unreasonable and you shouldn't go along with it. 1
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