ToyStoryThree Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 After a very messy break up, we decided that we were going to give each other an indefinite break. She wanted to be friends, I still had feelings for her so couldn't. She was the dumper. I text her a few weeks ago to say 'hey' and told her I thought it was silly that we didn't talk, and her reply was basically that she was 'happy' now, and didn't want to be friends. I left it with an 'OK, cool' message and that was that. She used the words 'for now' in that message, as well. Anyway, my mobile phone contract comes to an end in about a week, and I'm not sure if I should let her know. In the past, we both agreed to let each other know if we changed numbers but her tone with me the last time we talked suggests she no longer cares about that. She was the only person I've ever really loved and, 5 months later, im not over her. Shall I tell her my new number or just leave it?
BustedUpInside Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Don't give her the new number. If she really wants to talk to you she will find a way to get in touch. Let the pressure be on her to make contact. You already put yourself up there and now any move forward should be on her shoulders. You should feel satisfied that you tried. 2
all_cats_rgray Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 No, don't. I know this will sound bitter, but imagine when they do try to contact you and see the number is disconnected... Make the ice flow through your veins. It will keep you warm.... 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Don't give her the new number. If she really wants to talk to you she will find a way to get in touch. Let the pressure be on her to make contact. You already put yourself up there and now any move forward should be on her shoulders. You should feel satisfied that you tried. This is a good point. A phone isn't the only way she could get in touch (although I doubt she will!) I did try, I wasn't asking to have her back but I would have liked to have had her as a friend, but....hey. No, don't. I know this will sound bitter, but imagine when they do try to contact you and see the number is disconnected... Make the ice flow through your veins. It will keep you warm.... Yeah, it does feel kinda good thinking about that but I just hope she wouldn't think I was a jerk..
Simon Phoenix Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 This is a good point. A phone isn't the only way she could get in touch (although I doubt she will!) I did try, I wasn't asking to have her back but I would have liked to have had her as a friend, but....hey. Yeah, it does feel kinda good thinking about that but I just hope she wouldn't think I was a jerk.. You shouldn't care in the least. She broke up with you. Her judgments are no longer valid. 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 You shouldn't care in the least. She broke up with you. Her judgments are no longer valid. True. How annoying, I logged in to my email inbox to see a message from her...turned out to be some kind of spam message, think she got hacked... My heart literally jumped into my mouth and then sunk again.
mutant Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I have a feeling that if she changed her number she wouldn't let you know. Anyway no need giving her your number she's "happy now". 1
Jbum5 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Think about your future partner. More likely than not, they wouldn't be comfortable with you holding contact or even being friends with your former. And in fact, you shouldn't. Why incur more sunk costs than you have to? Do yourself a favor, don't be a lovesick fool. 1
So happy together Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Don't give it to her. Just remind yourself you'll be changing it again in three months if she starts calling. Best to let it go. Hang in there. 1
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