kgarcia6 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 A little background: I was with my boyfriend for a year. We went to school together and the first couple of months our relationship were great. However, he did pretty poorly in school and had to move back home to go to community college. He only lived 30 minutes away but it still put a strain on our relationship. He didn't have a car (couldn't afford one) and had a pretty bad job at a pizza place. He sunk into this sort of depression, stopped playing soccer (which he loved), and gained a bit of weight. But I still stuck with him because I thought that if he could just get it together we could have a wonderful relationship again. Then, I suppose I became stressed and frustrated waiting for him and we started fighting about stupid things pretty often. On the day we broke up, we had been in a stupid fight (he said I had thick thighs), and on the drive back to my apartment, I asked if we would be okay. He said "of course we'll always be okay". Then when we got back to the apartment, I asked if he wanted to watch a movie and he said he had to leave and it wasn't working. He said "I love you, but I'm not sure if I'm in love with you" and that he had so much going on in his life that he couldn't be in any relationship any time soon.Although as he was saying all this, he was completely balling and I could barely understand him. I kinda just agreed with him and let him breakup with me. I truly believe that if I had fought, he wouldn't have left, but I didn't want to force him. I didn't cry at first and tried to be strong for him. I eventually did get upset and he sat and waited with me until my roommate got home. He gave me a final kiss as he left and told me he'd call me in a few weeks and he still really wanted to be friends. We talked a little in the next two weeks and I met up with him about two weeks ago to get my work schedule, and we ended up talking over coffee for an hr and a half. He said he was completely over me and no longer felt attracted to me. He said he thought I was beautiful and that I had a wonderful personality though and he never made eye contact with me so I'm a little confused. I asked what he thought about a future between the two of us and he just simply said, "I'm not in a good place for a relationship and I have no opinion of the future. I guess we'll wait and see." But then I asked if he would mind if I dated other people and he was basically like, "you can't get in a relationship right now". He kept saying he had a paper he needed to write that night but never made a move to leave. Finally, I told him I had to go and as we were saying goodbye he gave me three separate hugs and kept saying "I'll see you in a month" (we work together). It's been two weeks since then and a month since the breakup. I haven't heard from him since I saw him and I haven't been contacting him either. I'm honestly just curious about what's going on and if I should see this more as a break. I'm also kind of wondering why he hasn't contacted me at all. Should I be worried? Do you think he'll come back? P.S Sorry for it being so long!!!
TheFriend Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I wouldn't hold on to any hope. I don't want to sound negative but the best thing you can do is let go of all hope. He actually told you he lost his feelings for you which is actually impressive. I know alot of people get stupid excuses but never get an honest harsh answer like that. Anything is possible, but if it doesn't happen you have wasted alot of time on nothing. Be strong, vent here, and do your best to move on. Thefriend
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