I broke nc (dumpee) after two months. Should I ask to meet?

[whisperoftheheart]

Hello.

I had previously posted re:nc and whether to contact my ex. It had been two months since the break up.

 

Well the other night I did it, only to explain I had his stuff if he still wants it etc. And that we'll sort a day to exchange belongings. All civil. He was grateful for me veing so willing to sort items. And we've been bouncing days off each other but nothing else.

The truth is that we haven't seen each other since the break up. And I haven't mentioned anything to do with it. He probably assumes im over it completely and hence being so matter of fact about his things.

 

Honestly I would like to meet him mutually just to talk and see if theres anything there now we've both had time apart. Either that or a chance to say how I feel about things. To say that i feel better, have grown from the breakup, feel perspective was given on the situ we were in but the residual feelings still harbour some hope for reconciliation. But im not sure if expressing stuff is selfish. And I don't want to drop all that on exchanging of belongings so should I email thoughts.

 

Is it worth a dumpee putting such efforts in knowing that it could back fire.

Or leave it as a 'but what if' situ.

To live in some form of hope or having complete closure if they say no.

Is the only thing to lose is the last remains of hope for it?

[OwlSoul]

Is it worth a dumpee putting such efforts in knowing that it could back fire

Up to you. I shortly messaged him 'Heya, wanna hang out?'. I was replied 'Sure'. It went pretty good (he kept kissing me and hugging, we spent about 7 hours together on the day).

But meh, even in case the answer was positive, it's stil a long way to go. Like this week we're not going to meet because he's working pretty much every day this week including weekends (we're on LDR, so it's like 3 hours travel to each other). So it's kind of suspended in the air for now. I'd be very nervous and insecure before in this situation. But meh. If it won't progress well, and we won't be a gf and bf in 2-3 weeks, I'm planning to move on.

[Leegh]

I think it may be best to contact him once or twice at most. Either things will get back on track or you will have closure. There is nothing worse than not knowing exactly why something ended, or wondering if there was some kind of misunderstanding.