edp Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 (edited) Hi. I really like this girl I met last year. However I previously dated her work colleague/friend and it went badly wrong. Just under a year ago I dated this girl for a month, on the last date, a jealous ex saw me and told the girl I had a girlfriend and whatever I tried to do to reconcile it, the girl wouldn't talk to me again. The girl I like was also shopping with her, but we were going around on our own, we just gave her a lift. I tried to explain to the girl in a letter, a few days later she saw me in town and said I was sick writing a letter and to get lost. The girl I like now was with her but talking to some other friends. Anyway time passed and the girl I dated moved away to London. She was a selfish disingenuous person, so good riddance to her, she was just sussing me out, asking what my house was worth etc and using me for lifts in the car. It's a shame I let her do it, but that's the past. Now to the future, these girls worked on a farm nearby and do seasonal work, the girl I like now has come back this year to work for the next season. She's been here since about March. I saw her again at the start of this month walking past where I work. Then I went to the supermarket later that day and she was there, I saw her as I walked out of the store, so I smiled and said hi, she said hi and that was that. Then I went to an out of town shopping center the following Sunday and she was cycling there with a friend. I went shopping there and she saw me as she walked into a sports store I was in, but I didn't try and approach her, we just glanced at each other and walked on by. I saw her again the next weekend cycling with her friend, so I deliberately went to the shopping center but I never saw her. I looked for her this weekend in the supermarket and shopping center but never saw her. Where I live is small and I think there's a resonable chance I will see her again. The problem is I like her and I want to ask her out, but I don't know if I can because of the past, I've said hi to her a few times last year when she was about and she said hi back to me, she also came in to the shop where I work and we spoke a little, but just about what she was looking to buy. So my question is based on if I see her about, how can I approach her and try to get a date, bearing in mind that she knows the dating with her friend and me from last year went wrong. I don't think they will have kept in touch, the girl I dated was basically a user and she didn't seem to care about anyone. So all I can really do is go and shop where I think she might be, there's a trip every Friday to the supermarket paid by her employer, so the staff get a free taxi as they live in the country a couple miles from the town. That's really all I can do to try and meet her casually. The easy option is to just look for someone else, but I like this girl, I found her more attractive than the one I dated, the one I dated became really unattractive once I found out her 'nice' personality was fake. So the one I dated is off the scene at least six months ago and it's nearly a year since we last spoke. The girl I like is also on facebook, but I can't see how you can ask someone out using facebook. Here's the problems summarised. i. Previous girl I dated, it went wrong and she and the girl I like used to hang out together. The previous girl blocked me on facebook and set her profile name to "Undercover". The girl I like now is going to have known about this, so she probably already has a bad impression of me, but that's just me making a reasonable guess. She does say hi to me if I see her. ii. I don't get to see this girl often, if I do it's likely to be when she's out shopping and I can't guarantee I could bump in to her. iii. If I do see her, how do I approach her casually and try to ask her on a casual date? I could be mad who knows. It is annoying when you like someone and there's these hurdles in the way. Why can't I like some one else? It would be easier if I did. If anyone out there thinks I should try and talk to this girl and try to get a date, has anyone got any genuine idea how I go about it. I thought just go talk to her, judge her reaction and go from there, or does it already seem doomed to failure? Thanks. I didn't mean it to turn out this long and I've probably repeated myself a few times. I am a decent fella I think and it I was really gutted what happened last year, when it turned out the girl I was dating was a charlatan and my ex from years ago could behave so badly. I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach. It would be awesome to ask this girl out, even better if she agreed to go on a date, I just don't know if it's possible. Edited April 30, 2013 by edp <>
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