GB25 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 (edited) So I met this girl online im 30 she is 22 and we exchanged a couple emails and decided to meet for a date. Now she works 3 different jobs so is extremely busy and text me she had last Friday off and we should meet. So went to a BYOB place (bring youre own booze) brought a bottle of red wine and dinner went awesome. She asked a lot of questions, eye contact was great, we liked all the same things like seriously it felt like our 10th date. She is complementing me left and right about my physical appearence and things are going great. During dinner she already mentions 2nd date " yes im planning our second date already " she said this..so im assuming shes into me right? after dinner we get in a cab to meet a friend of mine who is having a bday party at a local bar...this girl is ALL OVER ME- we stop at a differnt bar first before meeting the friend to have a cpl drinks..she says to me she is not at all the affectionate type but cannot keep her hands off me..so we are extremely touchy feely at this point.. We head to the bar to meet my friend and she is again, all over me cannot keep her hands off me..touching my back, my hair, kissing my cheek..you woulda thought we were newlyweds. At our booth at the bar she turns to me and says can i tell you something...i was like ok..she says " at dinner when i went to the bathroom i texted my friend and told her that i think i met the one and we are like the same person" i was flattered and told her thanks and i felt the same. Then she kept going on and on about how she loves my eyes, and my lips and just flirting with me hard. Yes we are both pretty drunk. She just kept going on and on about how excited she is to hang out with me more in the summer So we take a cab back to her car which she dropped off and in the cab she looks at me and says " why are you not married? you are like the perfect guy" anyway..she drops me at home we have a pretty intense makeout and she drives home. Long story short- she is blowing me off 2 days later- exremely short on text..texted her i wanna see her again and she ignored it- tried calling her once and she said she would call me back and never did...im not the type to chase..but I almost wanna send her a text saying..." why the 360? anyways thought we had fun if you ever want to get together again let me know" but that would seem desperate considering she is being super distant. What the f&&ck coulda happened???How can someone go so hot to cold overnight??maybe she wanted one night of fun and thats it?? Should I do anything else or just leave it be?? Edited April 30, 2013 by GB25
PogoStick Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Maybe a bit drunk from the wine and doesn't actually feel as close as she said. You did say she's really busy so maybe that's part and it may just not work out. Get a specific date in mind and text, I had a great time, want to see X movie on Friday? Either she accepts or you back off. Then it's up to her to make the next move. 1
Author GB25 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Maybe a bit drunk from the wine and doesn't actually feel as close as she said. You did say she's really busy so maybe that's part and it may just not work out. Get a specific date in mind and text, I had a great time, want to see X movie on Friday? Either she accepts or you back off. Then it's up to her to make the next move. To be honest I think i did all I could and I should let it be...yesterday went like this Me: (I called her, no answer and phone gave out of service area message) so i text her- " is you're phone working, tried calling" Her: Hey sorry, you're like the 8th person my phone is so messed up and its not taking incoming calls Me: Oh ok, can you gimme a ring real quick? Her: I cant now, i can a bit later is that ok? Me: Yeah no big deal, just wanted to get together again soon and see what works for you.. She never called or texted..nothing..so bizarre
Imajerk17 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 The faster and stronger they come on, the more suddenly they vanish. Sorry bro. 2
StanMusial Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Sounds pretty whack to me. Probably should just delete her number and move on to the next one.
Author GB25 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 ive had some weird experiences but that takes the cake no doubt
Archgirl Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 To be honest I think i did all I could and I should let it be...yesterday went like this Me: (I called her, no answer and phone gave out of service area message) so i text her- " is you're phone working, tried calling" Her: Hey sorry, you're like the 8th person my phone is so messed up and its not taking incoming calls Me: Oh ok, can you gimme a ring real quick? Her: I cant now, i can a bit later is that ok? Me: Yeah no big deal, just wanted to get together again soon and see what works for you.. She never called or texted..nothing..so bizarre Umm. As a first impression the whole text exhange is coming off as kinda demanding/whiny - the first thing you say is kinda nagging/blamey Then you ask her to ring you - like that's not hot, just ring her. And then she says she's busy and you keep texting her? This only happened two days after the first date right? Maybe chill out a lil? Coz I can't spot where the 180 happened. All I see is drunk and a bit more emotions than would perhaps have been communicated otherwise and then a busy woman possibly not that taken with a couple of very non-sexy/non romantic first texts. Back off, then send some flirty texts and say that you thought she was awesome. Make it fun again. Then assertively ask her out again.
Estate Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 So I met this girl online im 30 she is 22 and we exchanged a couple emails and decided to meet for a date. Now she works 3 different jobs so is extremely busy and text me she had last Friday off and we should meet. So went to a BYOB place (bring youre own booze) brought a bottle of red wine and dinner went awesome. She asked a lot of questions, eye contact was great, we liked all the same things like seriously it felt like our 10th date. She is complementing me left and right about my physical appearence and things are going great. During dinner she already mentions 2nd date " yes im planning our second date already " she said this..so im assuming shes into me right? after dinner we get in a cab to meet a friend of mine who is having a bday party at a local bar...this girl is ALL OVER ME- we stop at a differnt bar first before meeting the friend to have a cpl drinks..she says to me she is not at all the affectionate type but cannot keep her hands off me..so we are extremely touchy feely at this point.. We head to the bar to meet my friend and she is again, all over me cannot keep her hands off me..touching my back, my hair, kissing my cheek..you woulda thought we were newlyweds. At our booth at the bar she turns to me and says can i tell you something...i was like ok..she says " at dinner when i went to the bathroom i texted my friend and told her that i think i met the one and we are like the same person" i was flattered and told her thanks and i felt the same. Then she kept going on and on about how she loves my eyes, and my lips and just flirting with me hard. Yes we are both pretty drunk. She just kept going on and on about how excited she is to hang out with me more in the summer So we take a cab back to her car which she dropped off and in the cab she looks at me and says " why are you not married? you are like the perfect guy" anyway..she drops me at home we have a pretty intense makeout and she drives home. Long story short- she is blowing me off 2 days later- exremely short on text..texted her i wanna see her again and she ignored it- tried calling her once and she said she would call me back and never did...im not the type to chase..but I almost wanna send her a text saying..." why the 360? anyways thought we had fun if you ever want to get together again let me know" but that would seem desperate considering she is being super distant. What the f&&ck coulda happened???How can someone go so hot to cold overnight??maybe she wanted one night of fun and thats it?? Should I do anything else or just leave it be?? *shakes head* Dude, learn to read the signs... she was looking to hookup and you let her drive home... guys here are so clueless.
Joaquin Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 It was a first date. Don't over think her intentions. You don't know her. Not everyone is who they pretend to be. Gotta suck it in. No other choice but take the lesson not to invest too much thought in someone based on a single date. 1
mortensorchid Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 She was looking for sex, was probably a little drunk as well, and when you didn't go for it she backed off and moved onto something or someone else. It happens, move on. 1
salparadise Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Not everyone is who they pretend to be. ^^^Bingo! There are women whose entire sense of self-worth centers around sex appeal and getting men to fall for them. They have no clue as to who they actually are. They're chameleons in that they mirror what they perceive you want and they can extremely intuitive in this regard. It's their stock-in-trade and they've been doing it since adolescence, to every man who seems intriguing yet vulnerable, and they read these cues masterfully as well. Their emotional development is stalled at a much younger age. They are not able to have mature, reciprocal relationships. If a target capitulates easily they lose interest and move on to another, higher value target. If the target is perceived as high value and will not submit they may become obsessive and fixated on conquering him. They try to keep multiple options in cue, with one or two primary, active targets at any given time. It's all about trying to maintain a sense of self-worth via borrowing identity from high status males who are pursuit yet somewhat unattainable. They switch off as quickly as the switch on. She sounds like one of these.
Emilia Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 This is what happens when you are expecting maturity from a 22 year-old OP. She was after sex and felt rejected that you didn't jump her. If it's any consolation, she would have felt too easy the following day if you had jumped her and the result would have been the same. Welcome to dating the emotionally immature.
Estate Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 She was looking for sex, was probably a little drunk as well, and when you didn't go for it she backed off and moved onto something or someone else. It happens, move on. This! She wanted 1 thing and you acted like a dweeb. She's screwing someone else now.
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