vivi Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I was in an intense affair with a MM for seven years this June; very very long (and dumb) history, but I finally got the memo for good on Valentine's Day and told him it was over. He hasn't been acting like he heard me. He has been calling me every day and it is very confusing to me. I keep telling him that i want a real, full relationship and he can't do that, and he cant understand or doesn't want to hear why I can't be in touch with him. I don't want to have any more false hope anymore, I don't want to know what's going on in his life anymore. I told him last night that when he calls me, I continue to ask myself why things didn't work out and that he either stops calling me or I would block all his calls. Finally he said he could try not calling me for a week. what's with this guy? Does he think if he keeps calling me he'll wear me down? Worst part is, I feel bad/guilty, not to mention dumb, for telling him that I spent the weekend with two couples being a literal fifth wheel and I kept thinking, Gee, if we were a real item this could be so much fun instead of me feeling like crap.
Owl Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Why do you continue to accept his calls, his emails? BLOCK HIM. He continues because you continue to accept the contact, regardless of your claim otherwise. 3
HonestNeurotic Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 If you are still accepting his calls, then he still think that he has a chance to convince you to stay with being his #2. It's just a momentary setback to him, it's not over. So - sad as it is, you have to go 100% no contact. If that is what you want. For whatever reason, former lovers usually just do not work out as friends. Rare for that to happen. Sorry you are sad - HUGS.
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