Coping Vortex Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I have been struggling with getting over her. Its been 5 months most of it a lot of drama but I have been doing better accepting of late. Except for today. I woke up feeling depressed again. I miss her. I miss my friend and lover. Weird though it's starting to feel like I never knew her at times and that the whole relationship was a dream. I can't picture her being affectionate to me now. So strange. Then I have days where I wake up and miss her like crazy. If nothing else its all been confusing to say the least. Its not fair we get dumped and we get all of the hurt and frustration and confusion. They get to lead a new exciting life with someone new. Seems like nature did us a major wrong when building our brains. Wouldn't it be great if we were wired where the dumper gets all depressed and the dumpee can move on hurt free?
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Nope. The brain is wired correctly, because this is really a blessing. A lesson. A chance to start over with new resolve and new knowledge. A better shot at true happiness. It's just how you use it that really matters... 1
head/heels Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 OP, I was the dumper and 3mo later I long for her and ache as much as you do. I feel I made a mistake but have hurt her too much for it to ever be repairable (at least in the foreseeable future). I know it is for the better for both of us but it hurts daily and I am dealing with it to the best of my abilities. Hard and has not gotten much better than day 1... just trying to pick up the pieces of my life and get over her.
Author Coping Vortex Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 OP, I was the dumper and 3mo later I long for her and ache as much as you do. I feel I made a mistake but have hurt her too much for it to ever be repairable (at least in the foreseeable future). I know it is for the better for both of us but it hurts daily and I am dealing with it to the best of my abilities. Hard and has not gotten much better than day 1... just trying to pick up the pieces of my life and get over her. Sorry to hear you are hurting too but you seem to be the exception not the rule. Most dumpers have already moved on in their mind long before they dump you. And when they are gone most are really gone in mind and body.
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