sarahbbb12 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Im in a very tough situation. The man I came to love and I are in the situation of "Do or Die." This is partly mine and his fault, but really no ones as we are young. Young people make mistakes and aren't mature enough to realize true love. Even I can talk about it but I am not doing it. Well he and I broke up months ago but I know we were heading down hill fast long before. Had we been mature enough to find out before it was too late then maybe we could've fixed things. I met someone... I met a guy who treats me so well and he is just someone I can have fun with. He has filled the void of everything me and my love had failed to do. I am in lust over this new guy. But I still am in love with my lover that it kills me and pains me inside that he can't be the one to make me happy right now. I would do anything to go back. But this new guy wants more from me. He really likes me and wants to commit. Honestly I see myself committing to him because right now he makes me feel happy and forget the pain. I just like the freedom of seeing him with no strings, but I know that can't last forever. I might become committed to him. But IM SO AFRAID that if I do that if I do that my lust will run out and I will be facing problems with him like I am now, the only difference would be that he is not my true love. I dont want that, I dont want to be in this same spot in the future wishing I had just committed to my lover. He wants to fix things so bad right now but I feel I just can't. He knows about the other guy and still loves me! It hurts so bad that he is so in love and I can't be what he wants right now. He is totally different and more mature about his life, he is everything I ever wanted him to be. I love him too! Please I dont want to be here in the future. I just want to be happy.. so happy now that i feel I have to keep seeing this other guy, but again I dont want to come to regret everything. I just feel love isn't enough right now. What will make me happy in the end? Please.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Sarah is a pretty name. You and your words...how you put them...reminds me of someone...I love. How old exactly are you? If this Guy whom you love, is all you want...and the other is lust(all the fun that comes with it)...you should realize...That a relationship is bound to lose its fun...after a while and work on that. I know this isn't about fun really. Weigh the options. Lust seems great, but is so short-lived. Love is there...when flowers stop coming. Then...you should ask yourself: if this Guy(the one I love) was really the one...would some other Guy suddenly leave me confused about this one I love? So maybe he isn't as you thought. It does take more then love. Unfortunately. It takes action. It takes finding new ways to keep a relationship alive. Communication and a whole host of things. Ultimately, it is up to you on how you decide. 1
Author sarahbbb12 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Thank you for the compliments I am 22. I feel that the first guy is my love. Only because when I think of him I cry. I cry because I wish I could just go back in time and be the happiest I ever was in my life. He is the one that made me that way. I find myself constantly reminding myself of him some way and it destroys me inside.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Then go after him. He wants you back, right? You may not be the same...but if you work towards it...you can find excitement and happiness with the one you love. What ifs...are the loneliest words, ya know?
Author sarahbbb12 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Then go after him. He wants you back, right? You may not be the same...but if you work towards it...you can find excitement and happiness with the one you love. What ifs...are the loneliest words, ya know? It is easier said then done, sadly.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 True. It requires tedious effort. It is up to you on deciding what or which one is worth the effort...in the long run. It is easier effort for lust. Harder effort for love. Nothing worth while is ever easy.
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