I_Have_Blue_Eyes Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I meet this guy, we went out on a date for coffee on a Sunday which went great. He texted me when I got home and thanked me for a lovely evening. The following Friday he called me and we went and had another coffee, this went much quicker only 1hour. From the beginning he has always been very hard to communicate with, and it takes ages for him to reply. Like 6+ hours sometimes 24 or more. I did not hear from him for a week so I texted him the Friday after to ask him out for the upcoming Sunday. He said he would be with friends but that I was welcome to join them. The day after he texted me back and said that he does not know what's going to happen ad that he would text me later when he knows more. I waited another day and in the afternoon he texted me saying that he cannot meet me because he is helping a friend with a boyfriend and girlfriend thing for Uni. He said that he is going to talk to this girl about the event (I don't know if it's the friend he is helping -which is a girl - or if he is doing this things with another girl). Is he trying to tell me that he's not interested in me as a 'date', and that he is now seeing another girl, and only sees me as a friend? I mean why did he not text me earlier to ask if we could do something during the day on the Sunday I did not specifically mention evening to him, just meet up on the Sunday! Firstly, if we was going to meet, wouldn't it be really early to meet his friends on a third 'date'? Also does this sound like as if he's not interested in me? He said he needs me for his Uni project later on, but does he only think of me as a friend? We have only meet twice before, but we have SO much in common, yet I'm quite a shy girl and did not feel that I could totally let loose. If we had done an activity it would have been easier! But surely only 2 dates cannot make someone loose interest in you. I'm 18 and he's 26. I know that if I was to see him again I would be able to flirt more, and be myself a bit more. It takes time for me to feel comfortable with someone. What are your thoughts?
ja123 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 It's hard to say with absolute certainty that he's really not interested at this point; he could just be busy. But it does seem like he's sees you more as a friend. Just wait for him to contact you first, now, and you'll have a better idea.
BluEyeL Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 He is not interested, honey. Most of my dates fade after the second date, so I'm familiar with the situation. It's not unusual. It could have something to do with the fact that you say you are a bit slow to warm up and "let loose", I have the exact same problem. But don't take this as there is something wrong with you. The right guy will understand and like you for who you are, don't have to change anything. Let him go. 1
Author I_Have_Blue_Eyes Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Thank you, you two, for answering so quickly! Like you said 'BluEyeL' I guess someone will like me for me, and hopefully I'll feel that connection, and therefore be able to let loose. Thanks again!
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