Alisama Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Well I guess I just keep thinking of more questions haha! Well my boyfriend is telling me its not very common at all for a girl to have an orgasm by just penetration...is that true? He has been doing the best he can to give me an orgasm by the clitoris, but I guess its just that either i'm not ready to have one...won't let myself, or something...I keep stopping him, before it gets to that point. Is it normal to stop the guy when you have never had one before, the fear of it, does it make you want to stop it before it happens? I've been catching myself, stopping before it happens..I want one, and yet i'm scared I guess. I really do wish I could have one through penetration only, but he tells me its not as common as I think for it to happen, that the percentage of women it happens to is low.....so can it happen to me...will it, is it just I haven't had the right moment yet? I really do love him, and its hard for me to tell him to stop pleasuring me by the clitoris, when I do want an orgasm, just I want it the other way first at least.....he doesn't understand why I would want it that way....am I holding on to something that won't happen?? Should I just go ahead and let it happen, because it seems to me I have come really close to having an orgasm...Just not sure....lol maybe some girl out there will understand what I'm going through, maybe you went through it, or just have some type of advice...please Alisama
DerangedAngel Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 he doesn't understand why I would want it that way Neither do I. If he can bring you to orgasm via stimulating your clitoris, why is this bad? Why are you afraid of this? It is true that fewer women are able to reach orgasm by penetration alone. Maybe he could position his body so that his pelvic area is rubbing your clit while you are engaged in intercourse? This position is usually quite helpful for most. Is it normal to stop the guy when you have never had one before, the fear of it, does it make you want to stop it before it happens? I can actually relate to part of this. I stopped the guy, but I wasn't afraid. I was more... shy? Is this what you mean? -Deranged
Merin Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Originally posted by DerangedAngel Neither do I. If he can bring you to orgasm via stimulating your clitoris, why is this bad? Neither do I! Ha! As DerangendAngel said, it isn't uncommon for a woman to not be able to reach orgasm with penetration alone. Maybe it isn't so much having a orgasm you're afraid of, maybe it is "loosing control" that you fear? It sounds like you've got a great boyfriend, trust in this okay? He isn't going to think you've lost your mind, or look wierd when you let go and have a orgasm, trust me! Good Luck
Papillon Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 You have to see it from the guy's perspective too, you know. He's going to feel quite insecure because you keep on stopping him, he's going to wonder is he not doing it right, are you uncomfortable, and a gazillion other boyish concerns. Most importantly, he is going to feel that you don't trust him enough to let go. It's a killer, trust me. So you've never had an orgasm before, eh? Lemme tell you, the first one is gonna blow your mind, and you're gonna kick yourself for holding back before.
Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 I've also heard that having an orgasm by penetration alone is very uncommon. I've never had an orgasm just by that. Trust me, once you don't stop him from giving you an orgasm, you'll think you were crazy for not doing it sooner. You're missing out
loveregardless Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 with your not being fully comfortable enough to have an orgasm yet, I NEVER had one from any guy until recently...you just aren't ready yet, as you were guessing at, when you are, and you are 100% comfortable, it will happen, until then forcing it will only make you self conscious and MORE uncomfortable. It is unfair for a guy to demand that you cum if it just isn't working for you or your just not ready/comfortable. Don't worry your pretty little head though, it's very normal, and one day it will happen when your ready and then it will be no prob bob! Uh oh, apparently I misread, so you want it to happen the other way first!? In that case don't stop him anymore because the other is practically impossible for most women and will only dissapoint you if thats all your holding out for. i thought you just weren't ready, my b!
Alisama Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 k thanks for all the advice...i guess the next step is to let go and go with it.......hehe thanks -------Alisama
sadangel Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 It has always been easier for me to come while i am on top , at least ther first time . Then u can have multiples by him being on top afterwards. If you just try perhaps by grinding him while you are on top you might be able to make your self come
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