Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 First three yes. Last is the guy being creepy. Not in context.
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 That's a lot for a guy to pull off. partially yes but its a lot of iterms. its just the littl ethings that i say, that can woo a woman any day, its a smile when she i down, a warmth where there was a frown, its a hug after a tiring day, its in the little things, there is no easier way, to show a woman that you care, than to woo her with a bit of loving flair, it is in the kindness of your touch, that she will grow to love so much.... its never hard and theres the mistake, that a guy would think its all give and never take, a woman who you woo, would want to do the same for you...... rough copy wrote it in about three minutes so excuse the grammar....from me to you...its easy if you just try and do....the little things........they add up and happiness they always bring....deb 2
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 She listed a dozen items. To get her to have butterflies is hard, in particular. If you can't give a woman butterflies... you're done. 2
somedude81 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 You want woo the unwilling. Blah, stupid forum rules. I mean to say You can't woo the unwilling. Amazing, three people posted at the exact same time. 2
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Blah, stupid forum rules. I mean to say You can't woo the unwilling. Amazing, three people posted at the exact same time. I agree there has to eb soemthign there......but that only has to be a small thing.......deb
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Lol, just thinking about the woo is giving me butterflies. It's just being considerate and awesome at the same time. I don't understand how it's hard. Just common sense really. Giving guys butterflies is awesome because they get quiet and give that smirk. It's definitely not dead and love still does exist out there. It's just a matter of finding it. And timing. Timing is a bitch. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 We're old, of course, so maybe it's generational, but my husband seriously wooed me. It was not like sweeping me off my feet or anything. He knew what his intentions were and he made sure I knew. He did not take a wrong step. Our first date was extremely memorable and planned to the last detail, by him. He called me every day. He came bearing gifts (not like diamonds, more like a salmon to barbecue, some kind of treat he thought I'd like, or flowers. More than romantic, it actually seemed very deliberate and goal oriented. As far as sex goes, he NEVER pressed me although he did a good job of making me know he wanted to. He gave me the clear idea that he was in for the long haul and if I needed time, we had time. Along with making me feel valued and wanted, he also helped me to feel secure and comfortable and it built my trust in him. It was actually the opposite of the game playing that I read about here that women are supposed to fall for. I must admit, though, that the wooing behavior did not last after we got together; or rather, I have to ask for it. And he will come through. I'd like it if it continued, but I understand his character and that was meant to bring us to a goal - to be married and to go through life together. He doesn't really know internally that I, and lots of other women as well, appreciate feeling wooed for all the years of a relationship. I can work with it, though. 2
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 he is doing all that to 3 other girls too:D then he aint doing it properly.......deb 1
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 We're old, of course, so maybe it's generational, but my husband seriously wooed me. It was not like sweeping me off my feet or anything. He knew what his intentions were and he made sure I knew. He did not take a wrong step. Our first date was extremely memorable and planned to the last detail, by him. He called me every day. He came bearing gifts (not like diamonds, more like a salmon to barbecue, some kind of treat he thought I'd like, or flowers. More than romantic, it actually seemed very deliberate and goal oriented. As far as sex goes, he NEVER pressed me although he did a good job of making me know he wanted to. He gave me the clear idea that he was in for the long haul and if I needed time, we had time. Along with making me feel valued and wanted, he also helped me to feel secure and comfortable and it built my trust in him. It was actually the opposite of the game playing that I read about here that women are supposed to fall for. I must admit, though, that the wooing behavior did not last after we got together; or rather, I have to ask for it. And he will come through. I'd like it if it continued, but I understand his character and that was meant to bring us to a goal - to be married and to go through life together. He doesn't really know internally that I, and lots of other women as well, appreciate feeling wooed for all the years of a relationship. I can work with it, though. :love: 1
charlietheginger Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Most guys buzy working mon-fri and have bills to pay Life to worry about...women work 9-5 as well Often times wooing is going on a date sat night maybe Crashing at his place after a few dates. If you like each other its a relationship This isnt 1955 where a woman lives with Mom and dad till she meets the right man And he woos her and wins her love. This is 2013 guys and girls have jobs and bills to pay Throw in some baggage kids,drama,crazy ex , drunk Bar hookups and old so much for the whooing. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I'll be honest. I've dated plenty of women. Generally, when I'm aloof and don't really care, I get the girl. Whenever I tried to "woo" the girl in the past, it never went anywhere. In fact, more times than not, I would try to "woo" the girl. She wouldn't be interested. Then I left her alone or decided to just be friends and was basically an a-hole to her. THEN she started liking me and came after me. This has happened to me countless times. None of the advice given here has ever worked for me or any other guy that I've seen IRL.
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 We're old, of course, so maybe it's generational, but my husband seriously wooed me. It was not like sweeping me off my feet or anything. He knew what his intentions were and he made sure I knew. He did not take a wrong step. Our first date was extremely memorable and planned to the last detail, by him. He called me every day. He came bearing gifts (not like diamonds, more like a salmon to barbecue, some kind of treat he thought I'd like, or flowers. More than romantic, it actually seemed very deliberate and goal oriented. As far as sex goes, he NEVER pressed me although he did a good job of making me know he wanted to. He gave me the clear idea that he was in for the long haul and if I needed time, we had time. Along with making me feel valued and wanted, he also helped me to feel secure and comfortable and it built my trust in him. It was actually the opposite of the game playing that I read about here that women are supposed to fall for. I must admit, though, that the wooing behavior did not last after we got together; or rather, I have to ask for it. And he will come through. I'd like it if it continued, but I understand his character and that was meant to bring us to a goal - to be married and to go through life together. He doesn't really know internally that I, and lots of other women as well, appreciate feeling wooed for all the years of a relationship. I can work with it, though. sigh...lol....im hopeless:love::love:...how lovely........hugs....deb 1
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 None of the advice given here has ever worked for me or any other guy that I've seen IRL. You've never met my ex then. We parted on mutual terms. Can you say carving the steak into a heart shape for Valentine's Day? Roses? Not to mention the constant little hugs and smirks.... damn. NC is tough, but I'll work through it. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Most guys buzy working mon-fri and have bills to pay Life to worry about...women work 9-5 as well Often times wooing is going on a date sat night maybe Crashing at his place after a few dates. If you like each other its a relationship This isnt 1955 where a woman lives with Mom and dad till she meets the right man And he woos her and wins her love. This is 2013 guys and girls have jobs and bills to pay Throw in some baggage kids,drama,crazy ex , drunk Bar hookups and old so much for the whooing. i refuse to believe this you knwo why........ you are a real life guy posting on an interpersonal relationship site and have had your heart broken.....wooing exists...as do guys who are looking for ways to get it right...turn back the clock for a while....let it be romantic..........deb 1
Imported Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 ROMANCE. Chivalry combined with pursuit aimed at gaining another person's affection. Trying to win over a girl that keeps saying no. I got better things to do and yet I will still go through with playing the fool for women I like. It is like trying to enjoy a movie that has a very good story, bad special effects and plot holes that don't make sense. I just don't think too hard about it and try to enjoy the story for what it is. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I think she has to be attracted to you That's my point. They BECAME attracted to me when I became aloof. When I was "wooing" them, they weren't attracted to me. So it had nothing to do with my looks, money, etc. I changed my behavior and they became attracted to me.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Trying to win over a girl that keeps saying no. Nope, that's not the woo. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Acting aloof and like a dick attracts a certain type of girl. I refuse to date dicks...and I always find out if they are one. Cant hide it forever You can "woo" without being a stalker. Stop when she says no or shows obvious signs of disinterest It works 100% of the time. Me thinks someone is not being honest with themselves.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Nice but most humans take a few wrong steps. No kidding! But he did not, during the wooing process. We didn't see each other that often since he was constantly on the road for his work, so it was probably easier for him to do everything according to his plan. Once we really got together and spent a lot of time, that's when the wrong steps started! On both our parts. He was a prodigious wooer though!
tbf Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 35 years and older Star. Those are the men who know how to woo. From what's been observed on LS, the younger guys don't have a clue. 4
Pyro Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 35 years and older Star. Those are the men who know how to woo. From what's been observed on LS, the younger guys don't have a clue. Ahem:mad: Always exceptions to everything I have to think back to the IM's and Skype time that CE and I had to think of the wooing. 2
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 35 years and older Star. Those are the men who know how to woo. From what's been observed on LS, the younger guys don't have a clue. My current guy meets that age requirement; he *kinda* knows how to woo. I think he was out of the game long enough to have forgotten. I will remind him. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 35 years and older Star. Those are the men who know how to woo. From what's been observed on LS, the younger guys don't have a clue. Knowing how to woo isn't the problem. The problem is that it doesn't work. 1
tbf Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Ahem:mad: Always exceptions to everything I have to think back to the IM's and Skype time that CE and I had to think of the wooing.Well true. You're excepted since you gave CE flowers when she arrived the first time. *pins lance romance badge on Pyro* My current guy meets that age requirement; he *kinda* knows how to woo. I think he was out of the game long enough to have forgotten. I will remind him. Yes! Do so. Have him swoon you! Lovely thread btw. It's brought back some sweet memories of our courting stage. 1
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