Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 What happened to "the woo"? Is it dead? Please say it isn't so! Ladies, do you like to be woo'd? What is the woo to you? Is it a necessary part of building a relationship for you? Gents, do you woo? Under what circumstances, and how so? For those who engage in the woo, when does the woo end?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 What happened to "the woo"? Is it dead? Please say it isn't so! Ladies, do you like to be woo'd? What is the woo to you? Is it a necessary part of building a relationship for you? Gents, do you woo? Under what circumstances, and how so? For those who engage in the woo, when does the woo end? What does that mean? 3
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 What does that mean? Sigh. My point exactly - guys no longer know what it is! It's dead!!
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Sigh. My point exactly - guys no longer know what it is! It's dead!! Well, I mean it doesn't really work. So, yes, it's dead.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Well, I mean it doesn't really work. So, yes, it's dead. What? Of course it works. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 What? Of course it works. My idea of "wooing" doesn't work at all (I know because I tried it in my more inexperienced days). Give me an example of a "woo" situation. And I'll see if we're thinking about the same types of things.
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 It works, but physical contact can be anticipated. Frankly, I don't mind hopping in bed as long as the man is sincere. So, no, it isn't dead, but depends what kind of girl you are wooing. I love chivalry, but I also love sex. *shrugs*
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 It works, but physical contact can be anticipated. Frankly, I don't mind hopping in bed as long as the man is sincere. So, no, it isn't dead, but depends what kind of girl you are wooing. I love chivalry, but I also love sex. *shrugs* Having sex on the first few hangouts is not my idea of "wooing." Think 1950's romance. That's what real "wooing" is. And, no, it doesn't work.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 What is it to you? ROMANCE. Chivalry combined with pursuit aimed at gaining another person's affection. Think John Cusack standing outside your bedroom window with a boombox over his head. THAT is the very definition of the woo. In fact, everything he does in that movie is the woo. 5
Imajerk17 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Truthfully? Most of us don't quite get the difference between the kind of persistence that wins a girl over, versus being that desperate stalker who can't see that she just isn't interested. That women tend to put out so easily towards guys they are into doesn't help matters. I know not what you wanted to hear. Real talk though. 2
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Define pursuit. If its the so called cat and mouse game then no I don't like it. If its the slow building up to love then yes I do like it. Re-read my example, and if you don't know what I'm referencing, watch the movie Say Anything.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 ROMANCE. Chivalry combined with pursuit aimed at gaining another person's affection. Think John Cusack standing outside your bedroom window with a boombox over his head. THAT is the very definition of the woo. In fact, everything he does in that movie is the woo. LOL I'm pretty sure that would constitute stalking these days. 4
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 If a guy waits a few months for sex is that too much? It'd have to established up front (for me) that the expectation would be to wait. I've been in relationships where I haven't had sex for the first few months (like six) and I've had one night stands. For me, wooing is more the method of attraction. It's caring and showing interest in me as a person, opening car doors, and genuinely being invested. That's what will truly make me (as a girl) fall in love, not a tumble in the hay. Perhaps that's just a result of my sexual history. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Haven't seen it. Quick summary of scene? Woo isn't a scene. It's an entire set of circumstances... it's the entire movie. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Truthfully? Most of us don't quite get the difference between the kind of persistence that wins a girl over, versus being that desperate stalker who can't see that she just isn't interested. That women tend to put out so easily towards guys they are into doesn't help matters. I know not what you wanted to hear. Real talk though. Woo comes once you're actually dating, to me. So, interest is already established. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 It'd have to established up front (for me) that the expectation would be to wait. I've been in relationships where I haven't had sex for the first few months (like six) and I've had one night stands. For me, wooing is more the method of attraction. It's caring and showing interest in me as a person, opening car doors, and genuinely being invested. That's what will truly make me (as a girl) fall in love, not a tumble in the hay. Perhaps that's just a result of my sexual history. Yes, particularly the underlined. Genuine investment.
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Alright but not about to watch a movie here. Say Anything. It's a movie about a young girl who has an overprotective father. This boy becomes extremely interested in said girl and proceeds to "woo" her. He leaves her little notes, flowers, and does practically anything to impress her. He's a little bit of a nerd, but his persistence and charm eventually win her over. He helps her learn to drive, and eventually they have sex in a car by the beach with a cheesy love song in the background. Father accepts the boy, father is incarcerated for fraud, boy takes over as protector of girl. He is last seen escorting the young lady to England to go travelling.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Say Anything. It's a movie about a young girl who has an overprotective father. This boy becomes extremely interested in said girl and proceeds to "woo" her. He leaves her little notes, flowers, and does practically anything to impress her. He's a little bit of a nerd, but his persistence and charm eventually win her over. He helps her learn to drive, and eventually they have sex in a car by the beach with a cheesy love song in the background. Father accepts the boy, father is incarcerated for fraud, boy takes over as protector of girl. He is last seen escorting the young lady to England to go travelling. The movie is awesome. I agree. I believe that this kind of thing worked at one time. But the bottom line is that there's no reason to do those kinds of things these days. Also, it really doesn't work. I promise.
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 What happened to "the woo"? Is it dead? Please say it isn't so! Ladies, do you like to be woo'd? What is the woo to you? Is it a necessary part of building a relationship for you? Gents, do you woo? Under what circumstances, and how so? For those who engage in the woo, when does the woo end? i have been wooed.......its where a guy doesnt play games makes his intentions clear, but doesnt force anything....polite, respectful,does little things that make you go awww ......and hug them repeatedly... makes you feel wonderful about yourself like you are the only woman in the room when you are not the only woman..in the room...you feel beautiful when he looks at you.....he doesnt agree with everything you say .because he make syou feel special.. conversation is warm inviting.....butterfly stuff....he teases but not horrible...he calls often and wants to spend time with you above others....thats wooing....to me anyway...and yes its special......deb 2
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 The movie is awesome. I agree. I believe that this kind of thing worked at one time. But the bottom line is that there's no reason to do those kinds of things these days. Also, it really doesn't work. I promise. You obviously haven't met half of the women in my age group. I adore little things like this. 2
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Say Anything. It's a movie about a young girl who has an overprotective father. This boy becomes extremely interested in said girl and proceeds to "woo" her. He leaves her little notes, flowers, and does practically anything to impress her. He's a little bit of a nerd, but his persistence and charm eventually win her over. He helps her learn to drive, and eventually they have sex in a car by the beach with a cheesy love song in the background. Father accepts the boy, father is incarcerated for fraud, boy takes over as protector of girl. He is last seen escorting the young lady to England to go travelling. There are no notes or flowers. Examples of woo: Walking through a parking lot, he spots some glass. He pushes the glass aside, and guides her around it, so as to not cut her foot. Another example of woo: She works at a skilled nursing facility. He helps her work there with the elderly. Another example of woo: He patiently helps her learn how to drive stick. Another example of woo: After she breaks up with him (for stupid reasons, as we all know), he "serenades" her outside her window by playing "their song" from a boombox. 2
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 i have been wooed.......its where a guy doesnt play games makes his intentions clear, but doesnt force anything....polite, respectful,does little things that make you go awww ......and hug them repeatedly... makes you feel wonderful about yourself like you are the only woman in the room when you are not the only woman..in the room...you feel beautiful when he looks at you.....he doesnt agree with everything you say .because he make syou feel special.. conversation is warm inviting.....butterfly stuff....he teases but not horrible...he calls often and wants to spend time with you above others....thats wooing....to me anyway...and yes its special......deb Yes. He makes you feel special. 2
shiver23 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 There are no notes or flowers. My bad, I only have seen the film once, and that was about a year ago. I guess it's my personal bias showing through. The film definitely has some examples on how I like to be/expect to be treated though. No one is perfect, but chivalry and ladylike behaviour aren't dead. People are just afraid of being genuine these days.
todreaminblue Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Yes. He makes you feel special. even when you look like utter....banana slug.........smilin..........lol...hugs star......deb
Author Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 That's a lot for a guy to pull off. partially yes but its a lot of iterms. It's really not. 1
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