What is up with my ex. Long

[Bill in Tx]

Ok here she is...tell me what you think. We started dating when she was 39. She was married once while in college for around a year....said they decided they were better friends. I should have inquired more.

Then she was married a few years later to the father of her only son. The dad is a dirt bag. Whole other story but I know him somewhat and he truly is a dirtbag. Way behind on child support false cps charges against the next guy (8 year man). Struck her during their short marriage....very tumultuous relationship. He was and I suppose technically still in Supervised visitation status with her son.

Ok then around 02 she moves in with 8year man. They live together for around 8 years....he cheats fathers child out of wedlock. They reconcile for a bit with her even writing check for child support (His money) 8 year was not abusive to her but did have anger issues and took meds. I start going out with her she is still living in his house but paying the bill....he is working out of state.....weird arrangement but they are long done. No question there just bad business I think......she is a professional. An accountant But when her and 8 year man were together they over spent and co mingled funds and finances that still haunt her. 8 year also suggested her mom live with them and she did. Not sure how anyone thought that was good. We started and she moved to another place and her mom got her own place....they were both needing the separation.

We date for 2 plus years. My daughters love her but not so much her son who is add and has turrets syndrome and difficult to be around. She would often claim a black cloud was following her around....it was constant issues with her and the boys father, then a reconciliation process was started so the boy could spend more time with his dad although it was debatable if he wanted to actually at times.....

We both had a good bit of stress me with the death of my ex spouse. Both of my daughters being with me, my parents getting way old and my dad having life threatening health issues.....her with a job change after 12 years at the same place...her moving, her son. Etc....I broke up with her in October and was fine for 2 months. I didn't feel a thing and was still battling health issues with my dad. Her and I spoke a few times during that time, then in Jan. she called me and it hit me like a ton of bricks and I went into try to get her back mode...she refused, she refused to see me initially then let it be her idea. We met and she refused to get back....she had already started seeing the first guy she met on match and now it's the end of April, they are apparently living together, and I heard through the grapevine she is already planning a marriage or is in her head....her mom is now in her house and I believe she is with him in another city. She has now let her son go live with his dad....he has never lived with the dad but I suppose it's because the boy is so trying and difficult with the turrets and all....it appears she has abandoned her life as I knew it. She makes good money but has money problems and when we were together I witnessed some serious erratic behavior on her part. In 2 years I could never pull the trigger and ask her to marry me. It is almost as if I knew this behavior was lurking below the surface, but I do miss her. She has very few friends and none in her profession, and I know of no friends from the past or long term from college or years gone by, kinda weird. Let me know what you think