385 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 (edited) I just broke up from a long relationship and forgot how to date. Anyways, I want to ask a girl out but don't know what's ok and not ok any more. Is "do you want to go out" and then quickly follow up with what I have in mind before she says yes/no too childish? Or should I just say what I want us to do without the the "do you want to go out" part? In other words, is "do you want to go out" a little kids thing or do adults do it too? I want her to know it's a date not casual "hang out". Edited April 30, 2013 by 385
Maneater Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 good question. If you want her to know it's more serious, I would just ask her to dinner and offer to pick her up. In recent times, that is the new serious offer. 2
rocketman122 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 How the hell does someone forget how to date. Very sad man. A relationship is like non stop dating. You forgot how to invest and maintain it. U felt too comfortable and you slacked off. It's the reason relationships fall apart. You don't invest. Just don't say that you forgot how to use your weewee in bed
FlyerFan54 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I agree with Maneater. Telling her you'll pick her up and take her out to dinner, implies that it's not a casual hang out. To ask a girl out to dinner is a different story. Don't over-think it...just do it. Say something like "Hey let me take you out to dinner" or "How about I take you to dinner sometime." Say it with confidence and leave it open-ended. You'll get a much better response if you make it more of a statement than asking a question. 1
meghann8 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Ask her to dinner. Don't worry, you're not the only one who forgot how to date! I think that long term relationships are different from dating. They're more serious, there are different expectations, and you're more comfortable with the person because you already know what they like and don't like. Go out to dinner at an easy-going restaurant that has good food and a few safe choices on the menu if she's not adventurous with her food. Good luck! 1
FlyerFan54 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 To add to what Meghann8 said, don't over-think it as well. Go out and have fun, and get to know someone in the process. That's what it is all about. Let things evolve naturally and just live in the moment. If you think too much too early, it'll make your head spin. Good luck! Keep us posted! 1
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