McDonald Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 We lost Na to the dark side haha. but really I hope all is well and his and his gf are working out.
Author cavalier99 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 We lost Na to the dark side haha. but really I hope all is well and his and his gf are working out. Ha me too. Still curious why he never posts after being such an active LS member the last 6 months or so. I still sorta have a desire to check in. Not sure why. hmmmm
GB25 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Ha me too. Still curious why he never posts after being such an active LS member the last 6 months or so. I still sorta have a desire to check in. Not sure why. hmmmm He doesnt post cause he's not in pain anymore- he needed consoling, now he doesnt. done and done
Author cavalier99 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 He doesnt post cause he's not in pain anymore- he needed consoling, now he doesnt. done and done Your right. What the h*ck am i still around for. Old habits die hard i guess for some.
youngnlove89 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Your right. What the h*ck am i still around for. Old habits die hard i guess for some. don't ever leave cav!! 1
Author cavalier99 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 don't ever leave cav!! Ha. Ok. So long as you keep on uploading smoking hot profile pics! ...kidding...sorta. lol Cav 2
Simon Phoenix Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Your right. What the h*ck am i still around for. Old habits die hard i guess for some. Yeah, I wonder the same thing. Force of habit, plus checking in on old storylines I guess. 1
Author cavalier99 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 don't ever leave cav!! Ohh i have another request for me to hang around. More pics...And you need to block him on everything. Can you do it??? It is the right thing to do. Trust me. Cav
youngnlove89 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Ohh i have another request for me to hang around. More pics...And you need to block him on everything. Can you do it??? It is the right thing to do. Trust me. Cav MORE PICS?! men are so damn needy! I'm not blocking him. haha sorry 1
Author cavalier99 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 MORE PICS?! men are so damn needy! I'm not blocking him. haha sorry Self will and ego isnt going to get you over him. You need to block. Accpet your powerlessness over these urges and ask for guidance wheter it be from us, God, a counselor ecetera. If you know deep down something is right but difficult. Choose what is right. You have the strength but need to accept that you cant do it alone and you are powerless over this addiction to him. If you can accept this it will get easier to follow thru on NC, blocking ecetera.
Author cavalier99 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 (edited) Still totally indifferent after text exchange. Thing are going well with new girl. I have had the ocasional though about friend zoning the ex. Wishing her well in her new RS ecetera and just catching up. But i think ill hold off for another 6 months or so. Can a dumpee friend zone a dumper? I really dont want her as a friend friend. More like catch up every 6 months or so over coffee type deal. Not sure why. Maybe because ive know her for so long like 14 years and ill always wish her well. Weird lol :)Cav ohh and NO i dont want back with her. Im very happy in my new.RS and will never want back with the ex irregardless of what happens with new girl. Edited May 4, 2013 by cavalier99 1
th90 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Can a dumpee friend zone a dumper? Why not.. why not? I think I'm really close to indifference now Few days ago I intentionally braved myself to look at ex's fb.. and I felt nothing. Not even nervous about it. I stared at his profile pic (can only see that since I deleted him off my friends list) for a good while and kept wondering what his new gf is like. Well it doesn't really matter actually, just curious I guess. What makes me happier than anything else now is being able to be a happy single. I don't have a worry in the world, I have no commitment to anyone else other than my family, I feel so liberated, emotionally free, just happy 2
Author cavalier99 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 Why not.. why not? I think I'm really close to indifference now Few days ago I intentionally braved myself to look at ex's fb.. and I felt nothing. Not even nervous about it. I stared at his profile pic (can only see that since I deleted him off my friends list) for a good while and kept wondering what his new gf is like. Well it doesn't really matter actually, just curious I guess. What makes me happier than anything else now is being able to be a happy single. I don't have a worry in the world, I have no commitment to anyone else other than my family, I feel so liberated, emotionally free, just happy Way to go gal! That is awesome. Its been a super long journey for you. Im really happy for you. Just be careful ..now is when new guys will start showing up left and right! Think about what you want in a new RS when you start dating but also just be happy being single! Rock on! Cav
th90 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Way to go gal! That is awesome. Its been a super long journey for you. Im really happy for you. Just be careful ..now is when new guys will start showing up left and right! Think about what you want in a new RS when you start dating but also just be happy being single! Rock on! Cav Haha dating is out of the question for me at the moment! I'm focusing on my degree now. I met an old friend of mine lately who is totally my type, had dinner with him and went out a few times. However I'm crossing RS off my list. There's still so much more for me to learn about single-ship and much more from this BU. I think the best is yet to come 1
Author cavalier99 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Still doing great after seeing ex last week. In fact this is the least ive ever thought of her since the BU. She is barley a passing though at times. No more contact with ex since then. New girl rocks! Im going to marry this girl I think. Cav 1
Cognitive Miser Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Still doing great after seeing ex last week. In fact this is the least ive ever thought of her since the BU. She is barley a passing though at times. No more contact with ex since then. New girl rocks! Im going to marry this girl I think. Cav It's great that you bit the bullet of the BU, but I wouldn't jump the gun too soon though.
Author cavalier99 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 It's great that you bit the bullet of the BU, but I wouldn't jump the gun too soon though. Ha your probably right. Might be little soon to be thinking marriage?!. I mean i has been only a month or 2 of dating! lol. i have a wierd feeling though with this gal that she might be the one i pull the trigger for. ps thanks for all you support bud. you are one of the the few recently that seem to get me! 1
suladas Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 That's good cav. The only fear i'd have is are you just replacing your ex with the new girl? Tough to say. Good to hear your doing good. It's funny the only time I think about my ex is when i'm like "oh I haven't thought about her all day" 1
Simon Phoenix Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 It's weird how things work. Yesterday the ex contacted me in the friendliest way she has since we broke. Completely friendly, happy to talk to me, basically almost the same way she was when we were seeing each other. Of course, last night I meet another chick (one way out of my league in the looks department) who I have a great night with and ends with a nice second-base makeout who I was texting back and forth with for much of the day today. Not sure where either one will go (if anywhere), but was just a funny day. 2
rainmayker Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I'm feeling pretty indifferent now myself, after our 1-month breakup. I haven't felt the need to check her FB, Skype, or the video games that we played together. I'm not even jealous of the "bad boy" drug dealer who she left me for. I'm just... indifferent.
Author cavalier99 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 That's good cav. The only fear i'd have is are you just replacing your ex with the new girl? Tough to say. Good to hear your doing good. It's funny the only time I think about my ex is when i'm like "oh I haven't thought about her all day" You might have a point but i dont know. I mean how do i replace ex with new girl?? I mean isnt a new RS sorta a replacemnt anyway??? My feeling are much stronger for this new girl most likley because it is new and not my old stale realtionship. So im not really sure. It is very intense RS so far and has started similar to my other BIG relationships. It definitly isnt a rebound. I was well on my way to being completly over ex before i met her. So meeting her wanst to dull the pain of the loss of my ex. In fact i was just getting really happy being single and was sorta hesitant to dive it. but things just clicked really fast. So i dont really know. Maybe i just got lucky. Cav 1
Author cavalier99 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 It's weird how things work. Yesterday the ex contacted me in the friendliest way she has since we broke. Completely friendly, happy to talk to me, basically almost the same way she was when we were seeing each other. Of course, last night I meet another chick (one way out of my league in the looks department) who I have a great night with and ends with a nice second-base makeout who I was texting back and forth with for much of the day today. Not sure where either one will go (if anywhere), but was just a funny day. Way to go man!. Funny how that works. Just have fun. Soon there will be women everywhere. That happened to me once i was getting over ex. I just got sucked into a new rs so fast. Enjoy being single because it wont.last! (Although i cant complain about being in RS because it has been great so far) Cav ps need more info on hot girl! Forget the ex!
Cognitive Miser Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Ha your probably right. Might be little soon to be thinking marriage?!. I mean i has been only a month or 2 of dating! lol. i have a wierd feeling though with this gal that she might be the one i pull the trigger for. ps thanks for all you support bud. you are one of the the few recently that seem to get me! I'm just returning the favor. You've helped me out in more ways than one so I'm just trying reciprocate the same thing with my own 2 cents, haha. And I appreciate that man. I guess we just think alike and we're awesome like that 1
Simon Phoenix Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Way to go man!. Funny how that works. Just have fun. Soon there will be women everywhere. That happened to me once i was getting over ex. I just got sucked into a new rs so fast. Enjoy being single because it wont.last! (Although i cant complain about being in RS because it has been great so far) Cav ps need more info on hot girl! Forget the ex! Yeah, I go through ebbs and flows. Usually there's multiple women at a time or none at all. Met her through my cousin. He's a professional athlete and he was in town over the weekend, so his FWB down where I live brought a friend. The friend was a 5-5 blonde, great body, kind of goofy but fun, and I guess I had my game going, because she turned down another professional athlete and ended up having me take her home. Texted a bit yesterday and she's down to hang more in the future, so we'll see. As for the ex, it was a nice ego boost, but I'm taking the same approach I've been taking from the jump. I'll contact her when the mood strikes me and not worry from there. Though if this thing with the new chick turns into anything besides a fun night, my ex will definitely be benched. Better to see how a new thing goes IMO. Either way, talking in definites in regards to either woman is premature at this point. We'll just see where the wave takes me.
destroyed4sho Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 wow cav.....why did you do it? was it curiosity and having a crutch to hold you up in case she rejects again? I think it is ok. How did you feel before meeting her, during meeting and then after? Is she in same relationship with other guy or a new one? I am on vacation and got internet finally....and checked my email and had a bad meltdown. I thought about her less and less but still everyday. Not sure if i will ever get over this. What happen to NA?
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