d0620 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I was dating someone for 9 months, but I was in denial that it was a FWB type of situation because we spent time together outside of sex and including our families. In February, on Valentines Day he sent me a text saying we should end this and not to call him anymore. It tore me apart, so here comes the Rebound guy he talked to me, spent time with me, and is very nice. Now 30 days later here comes FWB and I decided hanging with him again and putting off rebound guy. I now realize that I don't want either one. I don't want FWB guy because I realize he is only using me and never going to commit and I don't want rebound guy because he is clingy and insecure. He wants to spend every singe day with me, claims he loves me, and wants me to move in with him only after 2 months. The other problem is these two know about each other and I am tired of tip toeing. I love the FWB guy, so this time I want to leave on my own terms. He is basically giving me time, showing affection, call me everyday, dinners etc, but still no commitment and he is still dating other people. I am tired of giving him what I should be giving men who treats me well. I somehow wonder if I would be more tolerant of rebound guy if fwb wasn't around, so I told rebound guy we need to just be friends. If I miss him after FWB breaks up and I get past him completely then I will go back, because its unfair for me to be with him and wish I were with someone else. The FWB is a admitted commitment phobe I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt because he has done much better in how he treats me, so how do I leave him? I still love him?
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