gd1039 Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 I have been feeling pretty down, especially the past few days. Here is the deal... I haven't had a girlfriend for over 2 years. I have had dates and met some girls over this time, but nothing major. Im a junior in college now, so you would think there are tons of girls to meet but I have had roughly 0 luck there. I talk to girls all the time, so thats not the problem. I am well liked by everyone that knows me, but I can't figure out why I can't get a girlfriend. Today I was waiting in this line at one of the offices at school, saw this cute girl but she didn't really pay any attention to me. Then 5 minutes after I left I ran into her dropping off something for the same teacher I was stopping by at. Coincidence? Sure. So, even though she didn't really notice me when we were waiting in line earlier I decide to strike up a conversation. It was alright, but I never asked for her number. Partly because I wasn't sure if she was into me and also because I don't feel like getting turned down anymore. Even though this happened earlier today I already wish I had just asked for her number. Turns out we have a class together (lecture) so I can try to run into her and see how she reacts and try to get it still. The only trouble is that I have a lot of the same people in my classes, so I know a few people in most of my classes, so its hard to break away from them.... Also, I have actually realized too that if I meet a girl and mention it to anyone, it quickly goes down the ****ter, which makes me look like a liar or a chump. I don't lie about girls I meet so that means chump. Anyways, I don't really know why I posted. I guess I figured I would get better feedback from people here than any of my friends....
Zakar Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 You can't be afraid of being turned down. Remember, the guy who gets turned down the most is almost always the guy who walks away with the most numbers. It doesn't matter if she's initially interested in you or not, that's easy to change. Just walk up to her and be like, "Hey, I know we've never met, but you seem really smart. Want to study with me and my friends?" That way you're flattering her, being confident, and inviting more confrontations with her - all without hinting that you're into the girl. If she says no, tell her that your friends are very incompetant and they really need her help. If she still says no, inform her that she's not a very outgoing person. Luckily, you're a psychology major (lie) and you'd be willing to donate your time to help her out with her problem. If that doesn't work, three strikes means you're out.
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