Totally disgusted

[Star Gazer]

I bet you he thought he was texting another Shannon, and realized his mistake but didn't want to own it, so just became outlandish about it to shield himself from embarrassment.

[ShannonMI]

I bet you he thought he was texting another Shannon, and realized his mistake but didn't want to own it, so just became outlandish about it to shield himself from embarrassment.

 

Maybe but what chick would want to see that picture? That's what I don't get. Most girls, even ho-ish ones would be put off by that. I mean don't most girls want to feel like the only one the guy desires even when we know that's not the case??

[xxoo]

I'm sure there are some wilder types who would appreciate a photo like that.

 

But the chance of a bad response is SO much higher. I don't get why he would send that if he wanted to see you again. Impulsive? Enjoys making people uncomfortable?

 

Anyway--good riddance!

[Ninjainpajamas]

Men do this kind of stuff because they can.

 

It's a boastful egotistical thing, he probably thought in the moment you'd think he's a freak and maybe be turned on, it really doesn't matter though, to be honest men get away with a whole lot with women that some pretty much seem to act without boundaries or limitations, they just take these "bold" chances...which are actually arrogance, and because they're so infused with blind-confidence they really don't even check their moves and actions. And guess what, there are women who will still stretch to wrap their mind around this to continue seeing the guy and some that wouldn't care, wouldn't surprise me at all.

 

Maybe he was also trying to play the conservative role with you in person at first then "surprise" you a little bit with some off the wall behavior.

 

The thing is this is what I try to explain to women about men all the time, but until it's smack in your face like with this guy it's like many women refuse to believe it...therefore I'm actually thankful for guys like this who are actually dumb enough to expose their true "behind the scenes" behavior, otherwise if he had done nothing or only given other little flags you would have given him the "benefit of the doubt", slept with him and then if you really liked him started to attach to him emotionally.

 

And then maybe that might have been your booty in the picture he was showing some other girl in the future! All because you didn't know what "you were" and felt like you could trust the guy, and felt for whatever excuse or reason you were together or somehow exclusive when you were really just a booty call.

 

Happens all the time, actually most of the time.

[ShannonMI]

I'm sure there are some wilder types who would appreciate a photo like that.

 

But the chance of a bad response is SO much higher. I don't get why he would send that if he wanted to see you again. Impulsive? Enjoys making people uncomfortable?

 

Anyway--good riddance!

Maybe he doesn't want to see me again. That sure was a good way to get me to stop talking to him. I would have much preferred him just not talking to me anymore. That would have been better then what I got. Strange.

 

Yes adios and do not contact me again!!!!

[ShannonMI]

Maybe he wasn't that into you and he knew that would turn you off. Although prickish and very out of taste sending you a picture like that, maybe he really had no use for you. Not that you did anything wrong.

 

Perhaps. I don't get why he would send the first pic he sent if that were the case. He sent one of himself only at first. And randomly. I hadn't texted with him in days and I got the pic late last night. Then I responded that I liked it and wanted another one and he sent me the one with the naked girl. If he has no use for me why even bother messaging me in the first place?

[Yamaha]

He was probably trying to imply he is "good in bed". He figures if you see him sexing up a woman that would make you want to experience the great loving she received. All about EGO!!

[ShannonMI]

He was probably trying to imply he is "good in bed". He figures if you see him sexing up a woman that would make you want to experience the great loving she received. All about EGO!!

 

Yeah it had the opposite affect. He's a stupid bastard. Most girls would be turned off. He must not realize that.

[TheFinalWord]

Ok so I haven't started a thread in a long time. Something strange happened to me today and I'm just wondering WHY and I guess I need to vent.

 

So there is this guy that I've been seeing. He is from NYC and he has family upstate where I live. When he comes up to visit his family he makes a point of getting together with me. We arent dating or a couple. Just taking it slow I guess. Now I haven't had sex with this guy yet. We kiss, grope each other a bit and hold hands and that's it so far. Its all very high school. I go to dinners with this family and hang out with them when he's up visiting. So I would say I'm the type of girl "you bring home to mom" or at least a girl to respect. He hasn't been pushy with regards to sex so I thought he was a good guy. I think I'm dead wrong.

 

Today I get a pic of him thru text message. He's a very attractive guy so of course I respond with "oh love your sexy pic, send me another one." So he sends a picture of him in bed with a naked girl. The girl is topless laying on her stomach with her @ss out. He's got his hand on her butt. I was floored. I said "a naked girl?" "That wasn't what I thought you would send me." So he has the nerve to say "hahahaha I'm in the pic too." I ended the exchange with "don't send me anything else, I'm good." He didn't respond after that.

 

Soooooo what the F*CK??? I'm so confused and grossed out!!! Why send me a picture like that? I was thinking maybe he sent it so I would leave him alone, but he messaged me first! Randomly. We don't communicate everyday, so for him to send me a picture of himself first and then THAT one was odd. Anyone have any ideas? Just curious. I'm done with this dude. I'm just wondering why a man would do that to a girl he seemed to respect. I'm beyond confused.

 

Hi Shannon, yes that is disgusting. Sorry that he did that to you. I imagine it's a shock.

 

If you feel like answering, did you meet on-line...did you say this was a long-distance "relationship" (I know you said this was not dating or a relationship, so not sure what to call it).

[ShannonMI]

Hi Shannon, yes that is disgusting. Sorry that he did that to you. I imagine it's a shock.

 

If you feel like answering, did you meet on-line...did you say this was a long-distance "relationship" (I know you said this was not dating or a relationship, so not sure what to call it).

 

He's someone I've known for years. Thought he was a good guy. Never dated him because I had a long term boyfriend. He moved to the city but still has family living here. I saw him out the night before thanksgiving and we exchanged numbers. We hung out maybe 5 times since then and there was no sex. Just kissing and groping. I've hung out with his family. The last time he was up he actually invited me to his mother's birthday dinner at a nice restaurant. Soooooo I guess I thought he was a different dude. This shocked me. You are right about that.

Edited April 30, 2013 by ShannonMI

[Eternal Sunshine]

Men are so charming

 

 

[ascendotum]

Yeah it seems totally normal for guys to send along their junk thru text messages. I've received a few. Sometimes it's well received and sometimes it's not.

 

Sometimes its plays out as you said. I would have rated this stunt along the lines of tacky rather then disgusting (but I'm a guy). This is 2013 and there are millions of dirty pics flying around. You have raunchier on your phone. To me disgusting would be if the woman in the pic had her mouth full of him, while he was making the devil horn hand signs with a yaaay look on this face. A butt shot is not that much of a disgusting thing, when you get 90% of that when you go to the beach and there are dozens of girls in skimpy wet bikini's wondering in front of you. Sending out a private pic of a girl is poor form + it's a cheap trick in terms of boosting his status.

 

A lot of women would be turned off but a lot wouldn't. A stunt like this may have escalated things for him in the past or likely for some of his mates. Don't under estimate crude/playa behavior getting rewarded by women for good looking guys. 'Doing well with the ladies' boosts a guy's status for many women. The effect fades as women get older, and this might have been the only time or it may be the last time he goes with this. who knows. It may not be this guy's MO. Maybe he has had a lucky streak recently and it has gone to his head. Maybe he was hoping for you to see him as a bit of a stud, and get full on with him the next time you meet up...quite possibly as a hookup since he lives elsewhere just but maybe more, since he had been on good behavior up until now. He goofed up and unfortunately let you down in a promising prospect. Some consolation..he did not use you and there are plenty of threads on LS of guy/bf antics more worthy of the bastard label imo.

[ShannonMI]

Sometimes its plays out as you said. I would have rated this stunt along the lines of tacky rather then disgusting (but I'm a guy). This is 2013 and there are millions of dirty pics flying around. You have raunchier on your phone. To me disgusting would be if the woman in the pic had her mouth full of him, while he was making the devil horn hand signs with a yaaay look on this face. A butt shot is not that much of a disgusting thing, when you get 90% of that when you go to the beach and there are dozens of girls in skimpy wet bikini's wondering in front of you. Sending out a private pic of a girl is poor form + it's a cheap trick in terms of boosting his status.

 

A lot of women would be turned off but a lot wouldn't. A stunt like this may have escalated things for him in the past or likely for some of his mates. Don't under estimate crude/playa behavior getting rewarded by women for good looking guys. 'Doing well with the ladies' boosts a guy's status for many women. The effect fades as women get older, and this might have been the only time or it may be the last time he goes with this. who knows. It may not be this guy's MO. Maybe he has had a lucky streak recently and it has gone to his head. Maybe he was hoping for you to see him as a bit of a stud, and get full on with him the next time you meet up...quite possibly as a hookup since he lives elsewhere just but maybe more, since he had been on good behavior up until now. He goofed up and unfortunately let you down in a promising prospect. Some consolation..he did not use you and there are plenty of threads on LS of guy/bf antics more worthy of the bastard label imo.

Why I'm disgusted with the picture was not because @sses are disgusting because they aren't. It's disgusting because of the message it portrayed. It portrayed a "I just f*ked this girl, how bout that??" It was completely unnecessary. I'm not impressed and I'm not thinking he's a stud that gets a lot of action. It makes me think he's a slime ball and a jerk. And age has nothing to do with it. If I was 20 years old I would be just as horrified. Probably more so.

[2sure]

Reply: Wow! When did you decide to try straight? Good for you!

[ShannonMI]

Reply: Wow! When did you decide to try straight? Good for you!

 

Good reply!!! In fact I've heard he likes guys too. That he's bi. I don't know that for sure but have heard it.

[ShannonMI]

Shannon, it's just like everyone told you: He's a total douchebag.

 

Yeah I got that. I got that the minute I received the photo. It's not like I'm totally oblivious to that fact. That's not even a question. The question was why would a man do this? I have a lot if answers now.

[2sure]

Good reply!!! In fact I've heard he likes guys too. That he's bi. I don't know that for sure but have heard it.

 

Ok, gotcha. Different reply:

 

Is that a She Male? Wow! Are you?

[ShannonMI]

Ok, gotcha. Different reply:

 

Is that a She Male? Wow! Are you?

 

Hahahaha what did the idiot expect me to say? That's what I don't get. Was I supposed to say the girl was hot? Or that I wish I was in bed with them?? He's a fool. He knows I'm a nice girl. Someone who hangs out with his family. Not a girl to have threesomes with.

[ascendotum]

OP just thought I mention...he did not lead with this bed shot pic. I don't know what he originally sent you, but you did describe it as sexy and asked for more. Maybe this is the only pic on his phone that could be described as 'sexy' so he went with with it, because its sexy and you asked for a follow up pic. This may not be typical stunt on his part, but rather just reacting to your request thinking you want sexier without thinking what you find disgusting, he doesn't.

[2sure]

Was he drunk or high? I mean, given what you've described of your friendship...that's a bridge burner. And for what? I'm curious myself. But some people are able to hide their douchbagness for a bit. Then it just spills out.

[ShannonMI]

OP just thought I mention...he did not lead with this bed shot pic. I don't know what he originally sent you, but you did describe it as sexy and asked for more. Maybe this is the only pic on his phone that could be described as 'sexy' so he went with with it, because its sexy and you asked for a follow up pic. This may not be typical stunt on his part, but rather just reacting to your request thinking you want sexier without thinking what you find disgusting, he doesn't.

 

Still makes no sense. He's only ever sent me pics of himself alone. Never with a chick or whatever. He had his hand on the girls @ss. It was totally intimate. And he made a point to tell me the guy in the pic was him. I couldn't even see his face in the pic but he had to tell me it was indeed him.

 

It's neither here nor there. I'm convinced he did it to get a rise out of me or to make me jealous. It's done nothing but turn me off.

[ShannonMI]

Was he drunk or high? I mean, given what you've described of your friendship...that's a bridge burner. And for what? I'm curious myself. But some people are able to hide their douchbagness for a bit. Then it just spills out.

 

He sent it at like 11:30 this morning. Last night I received the first pic of just him and I responded the next morning saying I liked it and wanted another one. Who drinks at 11:30 in the morning on a Monday? I think he's just a cocky SOB. He wanted me to get upset. I was very upset but didn't let on that I was. I just said don't send me anything else. I'm good. He didn't respond.

[Star Gazer]

He wanted me to get upset.

 

Why do you think that?

[2sure]

Soon, this will be a funny cocktail story to pull out. Not right now, but soon.

[ShannonMI]

Why do you think that?

 

Who knows. Maybe because I haven't screwed him yet? Or because I don't chase him? I don't know. I'm confused as to why he thought it was cool to send such a pic.