Totally disgusted

[ShannonMI]

Ok so I haven't started a thread in a long time. Something strange happened to me today and I'm just wondering WHY and I guess I need to vent.

 

So there is this guy that I've been seeing. He is from NYC and he has family upstate where I live. When he comes up to visit his family he makes a point of getting together with me. We arent dating or a couple. Just taking it slow I guess. Now I haven't had sex with this guy yet. We kiss, grope each other a bit and hold hands and that's it so far. Its all very high school. I go to dinners with this family and hang out with them when he's up visiting. So I would say I'm the type of girl "you bring home to mom" or at least a girl to respect. He hasn't been pushy with regards to sex so I thought he was a good guy. I think I'm dead wrong.

 

Today I get a pic of him thru text message. He's a very attractive guy so of course I respond with "oh love your sexy pic, send me another one." So he sends a picture of him in bed with a naked girl. The girl is topless laying on her stomach with her @ss out. He's got his hand on her butt. I was floored. I said "a naked girl?" "That wasn't what I thought you would send me." So he has the nerve to say "hahahaha I'm in the pic too." I ended the exchange with "don't send me anything else, I'm good." He didn't respond after that.

 

Soooooo what the F*CK??? I'm so confused and grossed out!!! Why send me a picture like that? I was thinking maybe he sent it so I would leave him alone, but he messaged me first! Randomly. We don't communicate everyday, so for him to send me a picture of himself first and then THAT one was odd. Anyone have any ideas? Just curious. I'm done with this dude. I'm just wondering why a man would do that to a girl he seemed to respect. I'm beyond confused.

[Buttercup84]

Because he is an arsehole, thats why. Please never talk to him again. He is insecure and a loser.

[Treasa]

Wow, what a charmer. Also, what an idiot.

[ddc579]

I apologize for men everywhere. He's a POS.

[TaraMaiden]

He has NO boundaries.

 

NONE.

He's an idiot, he thought you'd think him a swank catch - 'look at me, I get the girl every time....'

 

 

"I'm in the pic too....."....?

 

Yes I can see you are.

 

You're the highly visible a.sshole.

 

What a complete and utter tosser.

[Minnie09]

How old is the guy?

 

To me it seems this is something a person who needs attention would do. He wants to get a rise out of you for whatever reason. Maybe he's got passive-aggressive traits and is subconsciously pissed that you haven't offered him sex yet. And by sending you this very immature picture, he's telling you that you've been missing out on something. Definitely an attempt to get your attention and show you what a great catch he is.....and wow.....yes....he's having sex. Just not with you. He's sticking his tongue out at you. What a jerk.

[ShannonMI]

He has NO boundaries.

 

NONE.

He's an idiot, he thought you'd think him a swank catch - 'look at me, I get the girl every time....'

 

 

"I'm in the pic too....."....?

 

Yes I can see you are.

 

You're the highly visible a.sshole.

 

What a complete and utter tosser.

 

Never and I mean NEVER have I experienced something like this. I've dealt with my fair share of tool boxes and sleaze balls but this takes the cake. All from a guy who I thought was really nice an respectable. Not the case apparently!!!

 

I see his mom a lot and she's always gushing about how great her son is and how she wants us to get together. I'm totally going to burst her bubble. I'll tell her exactly what he did and I will finish it with "your son has zero class or cooth." "The next time he comes home tell him to forget contacting me!!"

[youngnlove89]

This happened to me. A guy sent me a picture of him and another girl having sex and I thought he did it on accident. I was shocked. Disgusted. This was the same guy who raped me later. I was stupid and didn't leave after he sent me such crude pictures. Learn from me. These kind of men are sex crazed.

[ShannonMI]

How old is the guy?

 

To me it seems this is something a person who needs attention would do. He wants to get a rise out of you for whatever reason. Maybe he's got passive-aggressive traits and is subconsciously pissed that you haven't offered him sex yet. And by sending you this very immature picture, he's telling you that you've been missing out on something. Definitely an attempt to get your attention and show you what a great catch he is.....and wow.....yes....he's having sex. Just not with you. He's sticking his tongue out at you. What a jerk.

 

He's 30. It's not liked we haven't talked about sex. It just hasn't happened yet because we always hang out at his moms house and it's not like we can just go in a room and screw. I'm not this virginal chick who has to wait till marriage. Far from it. He's knows that.

 

He's NOT a catch. This shows me he's not. He's actually showing me he's a slime ball and a man whore. Sign me up!!! He's got my attention but it's all negative.

[youngnlove89]

He's 30. It's not liked we haven't talked about sex. It just hasn't happened yet because we always hang out at his moms house and it's not like we can just go in a room and screw. I'm not this virginal chick who has to wait till marriage. Far from it. He's knows that.

 

He's NOT a catch. This shows me he's not. He's actually showing me he's a slime ball and a man whore. Sign me up!!! He's got my attention but it's all negative.

 

SO WAIT, he is THIRTY, lives with MOMMY and sends you pictures of him with naked girls?!?!?!

 

Girl, wake the $%^& up and get out of there. Stop this nonsense. Don't you think you deserve more?

[soccerrprp]

SIGH....{shaking head}.

[ShannonMI]

This happened to me. A guy sent me a picture of him and another girl having sex and I thought he did it on accident. I was shocked. Disgusted. This was the same guy who raped me later. I was stupid and didn't leave after he sent me such crude pictures. Learn from me. These kind of men are sex crazed.

 

I'm so sorry that happened to you. How awful. I won't be giving this loser the time of day ever again so no worries about him doing such a thing to me. He doesn't seem like the aggressive type at all. Sexually. He's very respectable and not pushy. Who knows. I was thrown for a loop by the whole thing.

[ShannonMI]

SO WAIT, he is THIRTY, lives with MOMMY and sends you pictures of him with naked girls?!?!?!

 

Girl, wake the $%^& up and get out of there. Stop this nonsense. Don't you think you deserve more?

 

Yes 30 but lives in the city. Alone or with his many women. He comes up to visit his mother and brother and stays at her house. This is when we see each other. He does not live with mommy.

[ShannonMI]

yeah, that passive-aggressive attitude should have had them all running to you for lovin'.

 

Obviously op thought (past tense) that the guy was respectable.

 

It wasn't all about, "hey, let's screw 18 times in the next four days and invite the pizza guy and my sister into the mix."

 

plus she shut him down when he was disrespectful.

So why, exactly, are you whining? Aside from the fact that whatever you are doing to attract a member of the opposite sex hasn't worked well enough to close the deal?

thank you!!!

[xxoo]

I can't imagine any reason a man would do that--other than he gets off on it. Like he is jacking off to the thought of you seeing it, shocked and outraged.

 

If we were friends IRL, I'd beg for his number so that I could call him up and ask him WTF he was thinking. Just out of morbid curiosity!

[youngnlove89]

Yes 30 but lives in the city. Alone or with his many women. He comes up to visit his mother and brother and stays at her house. This is when we see each other. He does not live with mommy.

 

 

Oh okay, I see now.

 

Still...you should just fall off the face of earth. Don't talk to him anymore.

 

You are pretty, you can do WAY better than that!

[ddc579]

Never and I mean NEVER have I experienced something like this. I've dealt with my fair share of tool boxes and sleaze balls but this takes the cake. All from a guy who I thought was really nice an respectable. Not the case apparently!!!

 

I see his mom a lot and she's always gushing about how great her son is and how she wants us to get together. I'm totally going to burst her bubble. I'll tell her exactly what he did and I will finish it with "your son has zero class or cooth." "The next time he comes home tell him to forget contacting me!!"

 

Just IMHO, I wouldn't even say a thing to her. This guy clearly is an attention-starved creep. To me, the best revenge is to pretend the dude doesn't even exist.

[ShannonMI]

I can't imagine any reason a man would do that--other than he gets off on it. Like he is jacking off to the thought of you seeing it, shocked and outraged.

 

If we were friends IRL, I'd beg for his number so that I could call him up and ask him WTF he was thinking. Just out of morbid curiosity!

 

Never thought about that. I did think maybe he thought I would be turned on and maybe want a threesome or something. Like he expected me to say "oh that girls @ss is hot!!" I mean I don't know!!! I'm not a threesome type if chick so who knows.

 

I'm not asking him why he did it. I'm beyond that. I'm not giving him the satisfaction of knowing I'm thinking about it. I just shut him down real quick and told him not to send me anything again.

[dreamingoftigers]

thank you!!!

 

I get him having some resent or what have you, but he's picking the wrong target, seriously.

 

In fact, in theory, you did what he would hope a girl he would want would do (oh jeez, that's a run-on....).

 

You nexted the d-bag and your looking for someone decent.

 

Imagine if he had been like, oh hey, that's horrible OP what happened. I resent it when the opposite gender disrespects me too....

 

And maybe 1 in 10 or so chances he might have been able to make an acquaintance. Who knows? Maybe you even knew a nice woman on Long Island who would've had a more shy background that would want to date a guy that didn't pressure her. Hmm...

 

And that's why networking and not being a doofus can help with dating options. Yay.

[sillyanswer]

Ok so I haven't started a thread in a long time.

 

I wondered where you had got to.

 

Anyway, glad you found out that this guy isn't worth your time now rather than later.

[ShannonMI]

Yeah, well, I CAN do a lot of disgusting things, but I don't want to.

 

Why does he WANT to? What does he get out of proving himself to be a pig, when he otherwise had her interest?

 

Exactly. I liked him. He knew that. 100%. Why so desperate for attention?? He had it. Now he doesn't have it and never will again. I'm sure he's on to the next one by now so it's all good. It's just crazy how you think you know someone and they do something so completely off the wall you are baffled. And I mean BAFFLED.

[Poppy fields]

So the fact he was good looking means he's automatically a jerk? Ummmmmm ok. He had all your traits, boo. But he was attractive. He didn't even push me for sex like most men do. So what gives? Actually don't answer that. Keep it moving and go blow up another thread with your BS.

 

The only thing he is blowing up is a plastic doll!

 

That guy was scum. Good thing you found out before you had sex. Ewwww.

[MidwestUSA]

Just glad your post isn't titled "Does he deserve another chance?" So sorry. Hmmmm, maybe we could inundate him with pix of our own?

[ShannonMI]

The only thing he is blowing up is a plastic doll!

 

That guy was scum. Good thing you found out before you had sex. Ewwww.

 

Hahahahahaha yes to the blow up doll. I'm cracking up. I'm soooooo glad I found out too. I dodged a bullet. Dude probably has the herps.

[Poppy fields]

If his Mom asks why you are not coming around anymore, tell her to ask her son. Don't give the details because you will just look like you care. Indifference is best.