She's getting comfortable and settling in a bit' - Weight gain

[candie13]

Right. But it's a fine line. If I were to gain 10 pounds I'd be a size 10. Lose 10 pounds and I'd be a size 4.

 

So 10 pounds is a LOT!

 

Btw, if I gained 10 pounds I'd be getting pretty close to that 150, haha.

 

I'm at 136 and I am watching that scale like there's no tomorrow, I can tell you that!!!

 

I got so mad the other day, I literally took all the starch I had in my house and gave it away to the closest shelter near my house! I can't even work out with a weight of 5 pounds (got zero strength in my arms) and I've gained 10, bloody hell !!!

[candie13]

I like to look good; I have a pretty large amount of vanity. I care about my health.

 

Still, it disturbs me when I read a lot of posts that communicate that there is little a person could be doing with their spare time that is of comparable value to working out inside of a gym. And of maintaining "hotness." Like these are the most honorable and admirable pursuits a human can undertake, which define their character.

 

Why doesn't anybody post about how disappointed they are in their partner because they don't read enough, or spend enough time on their spiritual life, or volunteering for Habitats for Humanity or something?

 

Again, let me emphasize that I am freaked out by a turn for the worse in my own looks, which is, sadly, de rigueur at my stage of life. And I work pretty hard to maintain what I have in the physical department. But still ...

 

They may not be the most admirable, but they for sure are those approved by the society. The younger the subjects, the more important the public opinion becomes.

 

In the end, it all related to what one finds as defining for his personality. Losing the shape of one's body is an important detail of one's identity. So is the loss of a job. Of an apartment. Or car. Trying to get those back becomes a priority if one feels that their identity is closely linked to that detail.

 

Reading is linked to enriching one's world. Of course it's important. But it's not something that's burning you - unless it's closely linked to a subject that is "hot" for you. If you compare reading to going to the gym twice a week, yes, I understand your point. But reading may come second, in the view of recent and unexpected weight gain, if looks are important to a person. And it doesn't mean that that person is superficial or un-educated or without a rich interior life. It only means that her identity is closely linked to her body shape.

 

So, getting back to the OP's initial thread, maybe looks are nothing but a means to "get the guy". After she "got the guy", looks became unimportant. Or maybe she's simply scared to try to get back in shape, because she's got no idea where to start... Different people react differently to weight gain. And it's all linked to their internal list of priorities

[jeni4566]

This post is entertaining. I am a girl and my ex who used to be a hockey player and now a surgeon loves to work out. He was very careful with what I eat and my weight gain. He gets very anxious when I start to gain any weight. He is a relaxed guy, very easy going. But when it comes to my weight, any signs of weight gain, he immediately thinks about the worst. When I gained a few pounds, I could tell he timed that by 10 years to imagine how I would look in 10 years. I thought it was kinda funny.

 

He does like my natural look and doesn't like it when I wear too much makeup. His favorite look is a white shirt, jeans with heels or boots on me. I am happy to dress up, because I love how he looks at me and how proud he looks when guys say :"look at her" when we go out. He does a lot of things to make me happy. Looking good and taking care of my body doesnot cost that much money and it improves the quality of our relationship.

 

I used to fight with him because I think he is annoying. But later on, I tried to see it from his perspective. A guy who takes pride in his body wants a girl who takes pride in hers. It's how competitive men think, not all of them but most of them. I think if you want to date a high quality man, you need to hold yourself to high standards physically and in other areas. Plus, you are healthier and live longer if you work out. Also, he will really make it up to you in the bedroom and make your efforts well worth it.

Edited May 3, 2013 by jeni4566

[iris219]

Right. But it's a fine line. If I were to gain 10 pounds I'd be a size 10. Lose 10 pounds and I'd be a size 4.

 

So 10 pounds is a LOT!

 

Btw, if I gained 10 pounds I'd be getting pretty close to that 150, haha.

 

What? How is 10 lbs a lot? I recently gained 10 lbs and I'm still the same size (2-4), albeit some of my pants are little tight.

 

No one even notices I gained the weight, except for my mom who hadn't seen me in a few months. I walked in and she said, "Your boobs look huge!"

 

10 lbs. is not that much weight.

[candie13]

What? How is 10 lbs a lot? I recently gained 10 lbs and I'm still the same size (2-4), albeit some of my pants are little tight.

 

No one even notices I gained the weight, except for my mom who hadn't seen me in a few months. I walked in and she said, "Your boobs look huge!"

 

10 lbs. is not that much weight.

 

F*ck, it is, if you try to loose it! And they tend to bring lots of other similar friends, if you don't!

 

I'm 5'6'' and I can feel the 10 pounds I've gained last year for SURE! I didn't have to change my wardrobe or anything, because my initial weight was my actual weight minus 5 pounds... but honestly, right now, today, I cannot pull off the dresses I was wearing last summer. And I am reasonably tall - 1m70.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Right. But it's a fine line. If I were to gain 10 pounds I'd be a size 10. Lose 10 pounds and I'd be a size 4.

 

So 10 pounds is a LOT!

 

Btw, if I gained 10 pounds I'd be getting pretty close to that 150, haha.

 

10 pounds = 6 dress sizes? WTF

 

When I gain 10lbs, I can still wear the same clothes, they are just tighter. I may go up one size, at most.

[candie13]

I think that's true if you're tall. If you're petite, it's a whole different story...