SexualDeviant Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 I'm good with advice, bad at taking it Well think of this, if you're lover wants to leave you, let them. don't say ''no'' because. it'll just prolong the break up. and if you're unhappy now.. imagine in 3 months? it's a waste of both of ur time, when u could be healed up by then. think of it this way, you're both 2 human beings, #1 you have no right to say anything in any persons life because you are equal #2, if you're unhappy LEAVE ASAP if she doesn't want to change. if you say i'm unhappy and she says me 2.. then say bye bye. and move on, me myself am in a disfunctional relationship.. so i might just take my advice some day.
gold26 Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 you cant beat yourself up for being human.. the tough part is in the letting go..you get so familiar with someone that even though you feel breaking up is the right thing to do you just are afraid to start over again.. you cant help thinking about all the time you have invested in the relationship.. especially if it has been a long term one.. decisions that may be right dont alwasy feel good in the begining..but why hold onto something that is doomed or worse, to someone who no longer wants to stay? i feel for your situation.. i really do.. and i hope things work out for you in the end..
twistedtexan Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 But What if one of the party's realizes that they could make the relationship better. They learned that certain things in the relationship werent being done that could have made it work. Is it still better to just let go and not fight for the person that you love?
werty Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 tell her how u feel about her, and about things... if she still says no, then its best that you let go...,maybe for now... its not gona be helpful if u force the issue. say your words,den say goodbye...
gold26 Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 i guess im a fighter but my instinct would always be to try to hold on to someone that i love.. unless the situation were abusive or simply impossable.. there are always ways for people to work things out. compromise, counceling etc . they just have to care enough to try.. a good relationship is not always sunny.. it take work , dedication and most of all respect from both sides. however.. love has to be reciprocated.. you cant kick a dead dog..if someone clearly wants to leave there is no point in trying to make them stay..they just end up resenting you..and eventually vise versa
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