JessieJ08 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I just want some honest opinions on the subject because My man and I are not speaking as much and have tension. He just came back from deployment and I went in his phone I was looking at the pictures he took in Spain and when I clicked next I noticed all the pics were of girls I knew he had either slept with or had passed relations with. But I didn't see one picture that I had sent him while he was deployed I thought maybe he had kept them and a special spot and asked what he thought of the pictures I sent him and where they were he had None of them he said he had deleted them because he didn't want one of his friends to see them which not all were bad he didn't even have a face pic and I sent him more then a few? So I dont really buy the whole he doesn't remember or doesn't Know Anyone else ever been in this situation Should I be worried about this? Not to mention he was confiding in a married woman who was trying to get him to cheat so much she was asking him to take her to the hospital that she couldn't keep anything down he said its because he wasn't working and they have a buddy system but idk I still think that Boss/friend and his relation is very questionable so its a tough one.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Listen to your gut. It is very odd your pictures are NOT on his phone at all. He can delete you, but not the other women from his past? This is a red flag to me. I would probably have a lot of choice words with my husband for having pictures of other women on his phone to begin with, regardless. Even if he had pictures of me on his phone too, I would not be happy about him having others there too... but then to look and find none of me, would make me think there was something more to it. This woman trying to convince him to cheat............................................ I wouldnt even know what to say to my H about this. This is only my story, so I am not speaking for everyone when I say, I have, in the past, been told half truths about cheating where the guy would tell me something about being hit on, but that he didnt reciprocate anything. Half truth. The truthful part was that she did come on to him. The lie was that he didnt reciprocate anything. An ex of mine, told me that some girl came onto him, but he loved me, so nothing happened because he loved me too much to cheat on me. Later, I found out, she came onto him and he had sex with her because we were apparently broken up. We never broke up at all, ever, for any reason. Men can often throw themselves under the bus when they feel guilty for cheating. Had he never told me that girl came onto him at all, I would have never known he cheated, so telling me half of the truth, only led me to the whole truth. I literally would have never known because I didnt really even know the girl. I did run into her one day and we got to talking (we have mutual friends so we were asking about one anothers friends,) and then got into a conversation about my ex and I brought it up. I told her soemthing really didnt sit right with me and I wanted to hear what really happened, as I know most women dont just go hitting on men who are taken and we had been dating for years. She never struck me as a girl who would sleep with someone elses man. She told me what happened and when I told her we never broke up, she started bawling and apologizing perfusely as if she had ripped my heart out. She didnt do anything wrong. She liked my boyfriend, he lied and said we were over, and they had sex. 1
Author JessieJ08 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 Yea I question a lot of things he does only because it seems he has to argue about everything that has to do with other woman. I see something that doesn't sit right let alone look innocent at all. With the other woman who is married she was deployed with him he is friends with her on Facebook but I don't think he should be friends let alone talking to her at all which he doesn't ever since he came back from deployment but still and she wasn't trying to sleep with him she was trying to hook him up with her friend. He let her take pics of him and I guess she had showed her friend and she was telling him what her friend thought of him he wanted to know tho because he asked what did she say. We have been together for 4 years and have a baby now but when I think about a lot of things from our past Idk why I trusted him so much I guess I never cared about that stuff I was more into him so I never made anything a big deal but their are so many things now I look at and think How did I not see anything wrong with him. Were engaged but when I think about marrying him Im actually really thinking how will it work. He says he has never cheated which maybe true but so many things that I think about now and Im like I have to be stupid if I think he has never cheated. The only reason is when certain things come up like for instance when we first started dating his ex would try and skype him her mom would try to skype him also and she actually wrote him on Fb asking if he got a girl prego? I was his gf at the time and I already had a kid. He told her no and she said Good. I got really offended and said he didn't need to talk to her ever again. He refused and basically told me to leave him because he wasn't going to stop talking to her or be rude to her. Im not going to say all the things that we went thru that Im now thinking about but idk maybe Im just thinking too much about it all but I would like to be with a guy where if I have concerns about a female he is involved with he doesnt use my security or disrespect me by calling crazy or weak or drama. I dont even get why he blows up and argues really bad because I dont want him talking to a female its very disturbing to me now?
Archgirl Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 He blows up at you when you bring up legitimate concerns because he's in the wrong and he's trying to put you on the defensive. D*cks do that when they know they've done wrong by you and they feel guilty and resent you calling them on it. Stay on him about it, get your answers, you have his child and you deserve his respect. I suspect if he does actually tell you the truth it won't be anything you want to hear though. The deleting pics of you sounds like hiding evidence of you, perhaps to sell a story to someone you are not together anymore. Or perhaps because seeing pictures of you made him feel guilty because he was planning to leave you. There's no innocent explanation. I'm sorry 1
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