tinroof Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 After a week or so of no contact I contacted ex to see if he wanted to me to mail his things and he said he'd pick his stuff up that day. I asked if he wanted a camera which was partially full of pics we had taken or if I should just throw it away and he said he wanted to keep it. Then he showed up and I gave him his things expecting him to leave soon after. Instead he proceeded to hug me and not let go, tell me how awesome I am, suggest to meet up in the future several times, hug me some more, walk out the door... come BACK in and hug me again. He then texts me shortly after leaving and tells me how difficult that was. After a week of not talking I had assumed he didn't care about the break up whatsoever and didn't want to speak to me. I tried to remain unemotional and distant the best I could and didn't jump at the idea to see him again and I have yet to hear from him since the exchange. Any advice would be really helpful.
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 tinroof, he gave you the 'physical' version of breadcrumbs, plain and simple. No talk of mistakes, no talk of reconciliation, just appeasement and alleviation of guilt. For himself. He went through all of that to make himself feel better, not you. Being magnanimous, giving and 'charitable' made him feel all wholesome and cosy.... He didn't go through all of that for your benefit. The benefit was all for him....
youngnlove89 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 He is human. Breaking up isn't easy on either side. My ex came back once after he dropped off my stuff, knocked on the door, had tears in his eyes, and said he didn't want to leave. We sat in the room in silence, just hugging each other. The time we had shared was over and we were mourning it. But in the end, nothing changed. Nothing was going to change. And we both knew it, but didn't know how to accept it. You both shared great memories together and it's over now. It's like mourning a death. You both broke up for a reason, but still hold onto those memories because you do care for each other, it's just that the inevitable is that you guys aren't meant to be. Time will heal all this pain. Don't look too deep into what happened. It doesn't mean anything besides that he has feelings. But having feelings doesn't mean it will bring him back. Because he isn't coming back. He walked out that door, so now you need to lock it and leave it shut.
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