witchychick Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I posted about something relating to the last guy I dated at all who I still had feelings for. We only hung out 4 times before but I really liked him,and still liked him. He and someone I was friends with went to my birthday party and talked a lot and he didn't seem that interested in talking to me. She knew and he knew that I still liked him like that and she knew I was sad over him. She told me he wasn't her type and that they were friends and it wasn't like they were betraying me. Now she is his girlfriend. they first met at my party on April 19th so this obviously happened kind of fast. I have felt like its wrong because they knew that I still liked him like that, and she was supposed to be my friend but he went after her and she gave in. I know he told me long ago that he didnt want to date me but it is about how I felt about him still.
316 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Real friends don't go behind each other's backs like that, and this guy sounds like a player. I'd ditch em both.
witchychick Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I have. I am just upset and this is a bad thing that happened so I posted here
witchychick Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 have any of you been thru a situation like this? I just need some support.
calgary Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I more than anybody on this site.. completely know how you feel. me and my ex broke up.. started partying with my friend to get over her, he kept telling me to get over her get drunk everything will be alright.. next thing she came over flirting with him infront of me, I told her to go away.. 12 days later they're in a relationship. still in a relationship, that was 6 weeks ago now. she was completely awful for doing that to me, especially for flirting with my friend infront of me like the last 18 months didn't happen.. he was scum for going behind my back but posing as a friend.. it's hard to know who to trust and who to care for and who cares about you. all I know is, neither of them are worth my time... neither of them are worth your time.. it's already started on rocky grounds.. they betrayal of you.. if she's willing to betray her friend and him you what kind of a future do they have together ? focus on yourself.. the deserve each other and you and me deserve so much better.. you'll live through this just as I will.
witchychick Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I am sorry about what happened to you,too. And the guy I had feelings for either downplayed things with me or the way he really felt came out. Since he was like, we only went on a few dates, it's not like we were together for a few months. He also mentioned how we had a few drinks the nite we first had sex,so what, he was trying to blame us having had sex on alcohol? He wasn't drunk either-he drove us. And she hasn't even apologized. She was obviously never really my friend. This does of course feel awful. I hung out with him 4 times-not a lot but we went on some dates, and I had feelings for him still. That's the thing-I still had feelings for him, and they both knew that. He talked like it just happened and I know feelings do just happen but she lied to me and they didn't have to go thru with it. Am I right for saying that they didnt have to go thru with it? That no matter how much they like each other and no matter how happy they make each other, they didnt have to go thru with it? He said he felt bad before but he doesnt now. I hope it doesnt last with them. His feelings changing for me and him not feeling for me what he feels for her is bad enough but she was also supposed to be a friend to me. My roommate doesnt think them dating each other is wrong.
calgary Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 It is wrong, it's not nice. They don't care. Nobody you know will care or feel sorry for you and that's what sucks right now.. but what do you want other peoples sympathy for anyway? it's not going to bring him back and make her a great friend again anyway.. she wasn't a great friend to start with you're right.. people are very self centered... if you can help them get to where they want to be in life they'll take you along for the ride. they didn't have to go through with it you're right.. but then they didn't have to prove their loyalty to you because in fairness.. you obviously mean nothing to either of them.. as sad as it is, they're probably laughing about you.. get mad, not upset it helps. they're not worth even thinking about anymore.. I don't want my ex and friend to last and people keep telling me it won't last because it was a relationship built on betrayal. I've told everybody not to talk to me about it unless it's informing me they broke up. of course you'll never be happy for them.. but don't expect an apology off of her when they do break up.. and if he comes talking to you after choosing somebody else tell him where to go too. you're nobodies second best! go out party with your friends, flirt with people. make yourself feel worthy of better friends and better guys.
witchychick Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Actually my true friends care and think that them dating is wrong. I dont want people to feel sorry for me,just to care as this is a bad thing. I dont want anything to do with them now anyway. I had strong feelings for him-I liked him a lot but since they are dating now and he told me he put a spell on her, I don't want anything to do with them now. But I do still hurt over this of course. I am angry,too. Oh yeah. She's a wh*** and he's a pos. He isn't interested in me at all anymore-he wasn't before they even met, but if they talked to me, I would definitely ignore her and him, I would either ignore him or I don;t know, tell him it was low of him to go after someone who was supposed to have been a friend of mine. Yeah I hope they don't last and I would laugh if he hurts her. It is wrong, it's not nice. They don't care. Nobody you know will care or feel sorry for you and that's what sucks right now.. but what do you want other peoples sympathy for anyway? it's not going to bring him back and make her a great friend again anyway.. she wasn't a great friend to start with you're right.. people are very self centered... if you can help them get to where they want to be in life they'll take you along for the ride. they didn't have to go through with it you're right.. but then they didn't have to prove their loyalty to you because in fairness.. you obviously mean nothing to either of them.. as sad as it is, they're probably laughing about you.. get mad, not upset it helps. they're not worth even thinking about anymore.. I don't want my ex and friend to last and people keep telling me it won't last because it was a relationship built on betrayal. I've told everybody not to talk to me about it unless it's informing me they broke up. of course you'll never be happy for them.. but don't expect an apology off of her when they do break up.. and if he comes talking to you after choosing somebody else tell him where to go too. you're nobodies second best! go out party with your friends, flirt with people. make yourself feel worthy of better friends and better guys.
venusianx13 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Neither of these people are worth keeping in your life. I remember reading your post from when you originally started with this guy, and I hope you learned a bit of a lesson from your behavior. I'm not saying this to be cruel, as I've learned from my past behaviors as well. Sleeping with him so soon precipitated your neediness toward him. Still, though, from what I read, he was no prize. Hold your head up high, leave these two in your past, take your time with the next guy you like, and I guarantee you that you won't find yourself in a predicament like this again. Try to see this as a blessing - the door to this jerk is closed, and you've come to find out what kind of "friend" your friend really was. Do you really want to be in the company of people such as these, anyway?
mutant Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 The are many crappy people in this world. You can't control their actions and you certainly can't let them put you down. You should be glad that two crappy people gravitated towards each other leaving you unscathed. You've dated the guy for a relatively short period (4 days?) you have thousands of days left to enjoy your life.
witchychick Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 they aren't in my life anymore. I deleted both of them from facebook. Well,I am going to take it slower with the next guy but it's not my fault that they did what they did and that they are the way they are. I just had feelings for him and the situation became complicated after his feelings changed or whatever. I guess I did find out things about them that I needed to know. Hell no I don't want people like this in my life. Of course not. I hate that it turned out this way but they obviously didnt care a lot about me. Neither of these people are worth keeping in your life. I remember reading your post from when you originally started with this guy, and I hope you learned a bit of a lesson from your behavior. I'm not saying this to be cruel, as I've learned from my past behaviors as well. Sleeping with him so soon precipitated your neediness toward him. Still, though, from what I read, he was no prize. Hold your head up high, leave these two in your past, take your time with the next guy you like, and I guarantee you that you won't find yourself in a predicament like this again. Try to see this as a blessing - the door to this jerk is closed, and you've come to find out what kind of "friend" your friend really was. Do you really want to be in the company of people such as these, anyway?
witchychick Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 well I wasn't unscathed but they are gone from my life now. I know he and I only hung out 4 times but I still had feelings for him which made what they did worse. Anyway, I just posted here for support. I wouldnt have anything to do with them again. I just hope to find the next guy sooner than later and that hes not a pile of garbage. The are many crappy people in this world. You can't control their actions and you certainly can't let them put you down. You should be glad that two crappy people gravitated towards each other leaving you unscathed. You've dated the guy for a relatively short period (4 days?) you have thousands of days left to enjoy your life.
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