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I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months, we are exclusively seeing eachother.

He is italian american, good looking guy, I'm korean and I'm not a native speaker.

He sometimes makes fun of my accent, language barrier, and slented eyes.. and when I tell him to stop, hed say he was just teasing.

and also he points out how I speak weird (I'm very quiet person I don't speak alot, and maybe my language prob too..).

I don't really have strong accent nor slented eyes, I'm not trying to show off myself, but I get occasional hit ons from guys different races, I take care of my body and I hear that I'm hot occasionally from people. (I'm just trying to give you guys better pics)

 

Today, I was really upset, told him to stop making fun of me saying I'd rather be with someone who appreciates me and makes me feel special. and he said I will never find a guy like that, because I speak weird, guys will be just fake and anyguy won't be serious about me.

I said to him maybe there is a guy who prefers a foreigner over a fat blondie like your ex (no offence to blonds haha I just happened to know his ex was blond n she was lil chubby..n they were together for pretty long time i guess).

and he started to send me 3 pics of different girls he dated, all hot, 2 were asians though.. but those asian pics are like they are in lingeries n seemed like the ones just floating around internet. and he told me he only dated one philipina before, so that was suspicious..

anyways I told him thats even grossed how he still kept his exes pics, and hed say he happened to have them n he tried to prove his exes were not fat and he can get any girls he wants.

and he even said whites who date asians never take them serious, and since I speak weird theyll never be good with me.

so I asked him then why he sees me(because I'm the only one he sees and i know it for sure) which he never answered. so I told him he enoughly has put me down and I can't see him anymore since my self esteem got way too low. and I said since he said whites never take asians seriously, I guess that applies to him and I too,, n said I rather be alone.

then he said he will still see me, he likes me, and asked me to stop all these nonsense.

 

this is not the first time we fought, we had few fights before for different reasons or related to this, and when I tried to leave him because I assumed he never took me seriously.. he always kept calling n sometimes begging me to not leave.

 

is he trying to make it like there will be no other guy so I stay with him?

I don't get why he still sees me and deals with all dramas with me if he can do better.

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Noproblem Established Member

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Oh please this snake is toxic and full of dangerous venom

 

Just leave him already!

 

 

White, accents, serious, races!!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with the world!

 

 

Racist, low, jealous, crazy, selfish, ignorant, cocky guy!

 

 

If you accept to stay with such man so be my guest!

I'll just be sad for your torture and misery!

 

Side message to real snakes,

(Dear beloved Snakes: I don't mean to insult you you know I love you, but I had to make my point to this poor girl )

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todreaminblue Established Member

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I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months, we are exclusively seeing eachother.

He is italian american, good looking guy, I'm korean and I'm not a native speaker.

He sometimes makes fun of my accent, language barrier, and slented eyes.. and when I tell him to stop, hed say he was just teasing.

and also he points out how I speak weird (I'm very quiet person I don't speak alot, and maybe my language prob too..).

I don't really have strong accent nor slented eyes, I'm not trying to show off myself, but I get occasional hit ons from guys different races, I take care of my body and I hear that I'm hot occasionally from people. (I'm just trying to give you guys better pics)

 

Today, I was really upset, told him to stop making fun of me saying I'd rather be with someone who appreciates me and makes me feel special. and he said I will never find a guy like that, because I speak weird, guys will be just fake and anyguy won't be serious about me.

I said to him maybe there is a guy who prefers a foreigner over a fat blondie like your ex (no offence to blonds haha I just happened to know his ex was blond n she was lil chubby..n they were together for pretty long time i guess).

and he started to send me 3 pics of different girls he dated, all hot, 2 were asians though.. but those asian pics are like they are in lingeries n seemed like the ones just floating around internet. and he told me he only dated one philipina before, so that was suspicious..

anyways I told him thats even grossed how he still kept his exes pics, and hed say he happened to have them n he tried to prove his exes were not fat and he can get any girls he wants.

and he even said whites who date asians never take them serious, and since I speak weird theyll never be good with me.

so I asked him then why he sees me(because I'm the only one he sees and i know it for sure) which he never answered. so I told him he enoughly has put me down and I can't see him anymore since my self esteem got way too low. and I said since he said whites never take asians seriously, I guess that applies to him and I too,, n said I rather be alone.

then he said he will still see me, he likes me, and asked me to stop all these nonsense.

 

this is not the first time we fought, we had few fights before for different reasons or related to this, and when I tried to leave him because I assumed he never took me seriously.. he always kept calling n sometimes begging me to not leave.

 

is he trying to make it like there will be no other guy so I stay with him?

I don't get why he still sees me and deals with all dramas with me if he can do better.

 

 

you feel he can do better ...the fact is,he wants you so he can dominate you by so called teasing, it isnt friendly teasing....it is dominating teasing ...i feel for you....he ridicules you and tries to get away with it, when you stand up and say i have had enough, he begs you back

 

 

.......and the cycle continues.........

 

 

he wont break this cycle, it is a challenge to him you are a challenge to keep and dominate.......

 

so you break the cycle....and i wish you happiness when you leave him...

 

 

find someone who sees how special you are..loves the way you speak and every inflection in your voice...it is unique to you ...your personal stamp on the world......

 

 

find some guy who also loves your eyes.......eyes are windows you know....right to your heart ...someone making fun of them ......will always hurt you.....leave him .......hugs...deb

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umirano Established Member

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Ditch him fast, he isn't worth your time. What he said, and seemingly is ready to say again and again is very stupid. Do you want to be with a, stupid guy?

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Taramere Established Member

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is he trying to make it like there will be no other guy so I stay with him? I don't get why he still sees me and deals with all dramas with me if he can do better.

 

Most probably yes. He wants you to feel that you don't have other options. From what you're saying, he isn't just trying to demolish your confidence about being attractive, he's trying to imply that you will struggle socially and I think there's an undertone there of him trying to encourage you to feel that you're reliant on him.

 

It won't improve. There isn't some magic balance you can hit on where he'll start treating you respectfully because you've "earned" it. With somebody like that, the goal is to chip away at your self esteem while constantly pushing the boundaries that little bit further to see what he'll get away with in terms of being psychologically abusive.

 

Those exes he's showing you pictures of probably got his measure and left before he demolished their confidence. They're the women he's holding above you. The women who didn't want to be with him. Simply by staying in a relationship with him and putting up with this you will, in his eyes, be "asking for" shoddy treatment.

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Buttercup84 Established Member

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Please leave this loser. He should not make fun of your apperances and show off his ex's I am sure you will meet a decent man who is not an insecure little ****.

Treasa Established Member

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Kick his abusive ass to the curb. Make sure to tell him how pathetic it is that someone he considers so low is dumping HIM. And then never talk to or respond to him again.

 

Mother****er. I'm PMSing right now, so I'd love to rip his spleen out through his left nostril.

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stillafool Established Member

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OP, are you gone yet? Run, run, run fast.

Poppy fields Established Member

Poppy fields

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I am betting he did get those pictures off the internet. Dump his ass.

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shayla Established Member

shayla

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Don't give this one a second thought, get rid of him like a bad habit!

tricolors Established Member

tricolors

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Definitely get rid of him and find someone who respects you.

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DannyMason Established Member

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Dump the bastard.

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