9 months and I am still CLUELESS...Any insight would be appreciated!

[SLW89]

Hello! I will keep it short!

 

We met in college. He was crazy about me, I thought he was okay. Lol. We stayed friends for three years and started dating 3 months after he split with a girl he was with for four months. We were together for over two years, the last month was hell. We fought constantly, then we made up, about everyday. It got to the point of tears anytime we would be out with friends. We went back and forth " I can't do this anymore" but then make up. Finally he blew up, bad. He said he was done and I walked out. I called a week after saying lets work on this, blah blah blah. He said no I thought I made it clear when I broke up with you. After that I went completely silent. Deleted my Facebook, fell off the edge of the earth. Not even a month after he was back with his ex, the one before me that he was with for four months! I was baffled!!! Was I a rebound for him? Then she broke up with him 3 months in and that was that. They fought terribly. So cut to march, see him on the train to the city for st patties. He and his buddy come all the way to our cart to get off they try and get my attention I stare straight and don't say a word. They end up at the same bar, he tries to walk by saying something and I ignore. All his friends hug me say how much they miss me blah blah. So the next weekend his one buddy won't come hang out with me and my friend he and her are really close. He says I'm sorry I would love too but he isn't over it and he's my best friend I'm sorry. I'm here thinking what te ****?!?! I have not heard a SINGLE WORD from him since the day we broke up. 9 months of NOTHING!!!! Besides his mom texting me a few times and his friends. So I'm sitting here wondering, what is the deal?! I'm so confused!!! Someone have any idea? Am I blind?? Thanks!!!

[SLW89]

Anybody got anything? Any type of feedback would be really appreciated.. I'm really in the fence to if I should send his mom a Mother's Day card to open the line of communication.....

[Marine0311]

maybe this can help, my ex and i have broken up. i know she is with a new giy right now away at school, but im sure it wont last. i am even hookingup with this girl i met at school a few weeks ago. anyways, i know for a fact i will not say a word to my ex again unless she contacts me. i was a marine and am a man with pride and dignity. i walked away with my dignity and will not reach out to her. i still love her more than anything and this new girl means nothing. her birthday is today and i am still silent. i believe your ex is like me, has pride and dignity. he still loves you like i love my ex, but he is waiting for you to reach out.

 

i would say reach out to him with no expectations and see how it goes.i dont know if this makes sense to you but i hope it does.

[SLW89]

It makes sense but my only thing is, he broke up with me.... I mean to me that means I don't want you in my life. I'm extremely prideful and still hurt from him returning to his ex so fast. But I feel like if he missed me he would text or call. He hasn't once... My only thin that I would do is send his mom a Mother's Day card. What do you think??