mtnbiker3000 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 And, tell me how you know... Cuz it's lunch time and I got a big 'ol S**T SANDWICH to eat. In other words, I am hurting. Bad!!
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 29, 2013 Author Posted April 29, 2013 Cuz it's lunch time and I got a big 'ol S**T SANDWICH to eat. In other words, I am hurting. Bad!! Aw I'm sorry How old are you?
Comfortably Numb Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I got a big 'ol S**T SANDWICH to eat. In other words, I am hurting. Bad!! I would request a new Sandwich!
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I also have an awesome support group. What made it hard for me was the fact that I'm supposed to put on a brave face and when I didn't it made me look like a whiny little b*tch. I where my heart on my sleeve so everyone I know, knew how much pain I was in. Well, then do you really have a good support group??
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I would request a new Sandwich! Ruben please
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 29, 2013 Author Posted April 29, 2013 Me 41. She 31 Oh, so even when you are older you feel this way? I just posted a new thread about age and relationships, you should give me your point of view.
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Oh, so even when you are older you feel this way? I just posted a new thread about age and relationships, you should give me your point of view. Just depends on your emotional investment at any age. High/All = Death sentence when BU occurs. Low/None = Doesn't bother one too much at all at BU... I posted a thread about this a few days ago somewhere
hinatticus Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Both these statements shouldn't be put in the same sentence. True: the one in the relationship who cared LESS won't hurt as much. But that doesn't mean they don't have feelings. They had feelings and still do. It will still be hard for them too, but they had to do what they had to do. When someone just isn't into you that way, they are faced with a decision: fake it or move on. The wise move on. Why continue to lead someone on when you don't like them that way anymore? Relationships end for a reason. Someone lost interest, someone wanted more, someone realized the other just isn't the one. It's that simple. It isn't because they are "bipolar" or "jackass" or a "b.tch" or "have GIGS" It's just that they don't love you anymore. Cruel harsh realization. And we are left cleaning up the pieces. It sucks. But that's life. Anyways, I don't know where I was going with all that. I think I need to rephrase what you bolded. I meant all people, regardless of being the dumper or dumpee have it the hardest. My ex has feelings, she dumped me, AND she felt awful. I just meant in general that who ever has feelings will find it difficult to move on. Also, since my ex had feelings and did feel awful, I think that is part of the reason why she wants to try again. Or maybe what I mean by feelings are those people who are a bit more sensitive or who care, or who have empathy or I dunno.... 1
hinatticus Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 Just depends on your emotional investment at any age. High/All = Death sentence when BU occurs. Low/None = Doesn't bother one too much at all at BU... I posted a thread about this a few days ago somewhere To add to this, people who have more life experience or who are more emotionally mature will find it easier to cope post break up. I know for myself, I found my first love the hardest to deal with. It got easier as I matured.
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 To add to this, people who have more life experience or who are more emotionally mature will find it easier to cope post break up. Hmmmm. I dunno. Ive got plenty of life experience and pretty emotionally mature (at least I think so ). But, I was also 100% invested in my ex. Thought for sure she was the last pereson I would ever be with. The last person I wanted to be with. And now, I have gone down in flames . Hard!! Same as if I was 20, 25, 30 or 50. I don't think it matters. Maybe we simply adjust our investment. 1
ana0pera Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 My heart just hurts. I can't breathe and my heart is racing and my stomach is upside down. I just want to be with him.. I'm not going to contact him, I can't. But I hate this pain I'm feeling. It's uncomfortable. It ruins my day. I want him to miss me. I want him to want only me. I want him to want to be my boyfriend. I want him to hug me, kiss me, and tell me everything will be okay. THIS. This is exactly how I feel, to the T. I keep trying to remember what he did to me though and all the pain he caused, how he wanted it to be over, how he didn't want me, and it doesn't really help me feel happy, but it does help me realize that I need to get over him. Sometimes I just want to contact him to let him know that I've moved on, that I am much happier than when we broke up and I am feeling loved by myself and others for the first time in a long time. But really, what good will that do? And it's not even totally true. Yes it will feel good to me to know that I can rub it in his face, I do get a little bit of pleasure out of the thought that maybe he isn't doing as well as he might let on but at the same time he's not coming after me so he can't be missing me. I've always been independent and happily single, now that I've been in a long relationship it's so hard going back to how I used to be, and the fact that everyone else is dating or looking doesn't help. I like being in a relationship, I liked the relationship I was in before our communication problems arose. But I am never going to get that back. You probably wont get it back either. It's a tough truth. It doesn't mean we wont find new happiness. It might not happen overnight, but one day, I am sure we will. I understand your pain and how hard it is. It is extremely hard. But we have to hang in there, can't let them get the best of us! We will find happiness one day 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 THIS. This is exactly how I feel, to the T. I keep trying to remember what he did to me though and all the pain he caused, how he wanted it to be over, how he didn't want me, and it doesn't really help me feel happy, but it does help me realize that I need to get over him. Sometimes I just want to contact him to let him know that I've moved on, that I am much happier than when we broke up and I am feeling loved by myself and others for the first time in a long time. But really, what good will that do? And it's not even totally true. Yes it will feel good to me to know that I can rub it in his face, I do get a little bit of pleasure out of the thought that maybe he isn't doing as well as he might let on but at the same time he's not coming after me so he can't be missing me. I've always been independent and happily single, now that I've been in a long relationship it's so hard going back to how I used to be, and the fact that everyone else is dating or looking doesn't help. I like being in a relationship, I liked the relationship I was in before our communication problems arose. But I am never going to get that back. You probably wont get it back either. It's a tough truth. It doesn't mean we wont find new happiness. It might not happen overnight, but one day, I am sure we will. I understand your pain and how hard it is. It is extremely hard. But we have to hang in there, can't let them get the best of us! We will find happiness one day Thank you. What is your story? Can you PM me? It doesn't help when he keeps contacting me
ana0pera Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 My story is scattered throughout a number of threads but I'll PM it to you soon. You should tell him that you need space and don't want to talk to him. He might not like it but it's not about him anymore. If that doesn't work, block his number, email, etc.
GI_Joy Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 You know what helps with moving on? When the guy at Subway gives you free cookies hehe. Nothin wrong with flirting and just being yourself. Just so happens that people positively reinforce positive attitudes Time to open those shutters that your ex created in your vision and open up your world to the amazingness/niceness that is out there! 1
Am4Real Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 There's no fact or research to support that statement. Older may handle it different but coping or emotional coupling uncooupling have little or anything to do with age. To add to this, people who have more life experience or who are more emotionally mature will find it easier to cope post break up. I know for myself, I found my first love the hardest to deal with. It got easier as I matured.
Am4Real Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 We've told her... Haven't we YoungnLove? My story is scattered throughout a number of threads but I'll PM it to you soon. You should tell him that you need space and don't want to talk to him. He might not like it but it's not about him anymore. If that doesn't work, block his number, email, etc.
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