Being dumped in a long distance relationship

[MissRx2016]

Hi everyone, I just wanted some ideas or advice on why and how to cope after being dumped in a long distance relationship. I am 25 and he is 26 years old. We started dating in November. I was hesitant at first because of previous bad relationships but he kept stating he wanted a committed relationship. Things started off bumpy but we was determined to make it work. Long story short, he got accepted into graduate school in another state and I got accepted to pharmacy school in another state. Things appeared to be going well besides minor relationship issues , but he stated he didn't trust me and couldn't handle the long distance after 3 months of being LD. I am hurt because we both decided to do whatever it takes to make it work, but he went back on his word. Where do I go from here?????

[GI_Joy]

I was in a similar situation where the guy went back on his word about the imminent LDR, all I can say is to pick up the pieces and move on. The more you try to grasp what is left of what you have, the more he's gonna want to push away. If he doesn't want the commitment anymore, just walk away. Regardless, the space you leave him may or may not make him realize what he's missing. I'd say initiate NC and do your own thing. If he comes around, then great! But if he doesn't, at least you've got a head start in moving on.

[TearyEyedPride]

Short answer: Forward.

 

It's over. His words, comments, past present and future promises are currently invalidated because the relationship you had is null and void as of now. Let those go. Sometimes that's the hardest part, trying to understand why they said what they said and then act this way... it's all a nerveracking process.

 

I agree with GI Joy... just try focusing on you and feeling great about yourself. You'll grieve, but keep in mind that you will survive by any means necessary. Take everything you learned from this experience and everything you'd like to change going forward into account and go from there.