Is my ex bf desperate? Or does he like DRAMA? Sex addict?

[netrie]

Hi, All! You all have been so supportive and I feel like I am "buddies" with everyone helping each other out and getting objective opinions. I do not want to repeat anything but I need your advice. Well, after I initiated the NC for 5 weeks, I contacted my ex bf via email out of the blue to say "hi" and to make sure he was doing fine. I did NOT plan on getting back with him, although I always "feel" for him. I'm always so weak with ex bf. Well, he immediately responded and I saw him the other night briefly at his request... I was so nervous going over there.

 

[color=green]My QUESTION "Is he desperate and only wanting me for sex?" [/color]I cannot believe that he is even "dragging this on" after we broke up. I mean, I said NC 5 weeks ago, and I know I emailed to him a hello, and I know that he had sex with women (he told me he used condoms but I dont blame him during NC stage but still...) while we had NC recently too. I also went to New York to a female friend's wedding during this time and "fooled" around a bit with an old friend of mine but nothing serious like this with ex bf.

 

I WOULD LOVE ALL OF YOUR ADVICE AS USUAL IT HELPS ME TO SORT THINGS OUT. I need both male and female perspectives before I reply to him, please! Read below for yesterdays email and the latest one he just sent while I am online here as we speak today:

 

[color=blue]Yesterdays' email from ex bf:[/color]

 

[color=blue]Thank you for the nice visit! Sorry I was such a slug -- I needed sleep. I had to get up at 4:45am. I'm under A LOT of stress right now. I hope to get out from under it soon.

 

Cheers,

(his name)[/color]

 

[color=darkred]I replied "I didnt think you were a slug at all.[/color]" Just as simple as that.

 

 

[color=red]Current (today) reply email from ex bf: [/color]

 

[color=red]Thank you -- let's get together again . . . say when.[/color]

 

Can anyone decode or detect anything else that he "might" be saying here? Guys? Gals?

 

Netalia

[Breathe]

If you initiated NC and then you called him - go see him - sleep with him... whatever - then what are you looking for or getting out of this? Is he desperate or using you for sex or are you desperate or using him? You need to make a decision and stick with it. Stop going back and forth.

[netrie]

thank you Breath. I know this seems so totally irrational and especially coming from me--if you knew how "thinking" I am. Oh. Boy. I will have to figure this out. Relationships are so irrational.