idontknow98 Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 So me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago and since then I have tried to get back with her but I failed. This is what happened. After almost two months of NC she starts taking to me again, so I ask her out again..she says no and that she isn't ready for that yet. So we continue talking and go on this trip and spend a lot of time together. We get back from the trip and she just starts ignoring me. So by this point I'm so confused and pretty much just give up. So I tried NC again and after two weeks we just randomly start talking again. It's like every time I try to move on and forget about her, she is right back in my life again. I don't know..maybe I'm just thinking too hard or maybe there is a reason she keeps coming back. What are your opinions? It doesn't seem like it is on purpose..we just randomly see each other someday and end up spending the whole day together.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Read some of the stories here and you will see a pattern... Women will leave you, but they dont want you to extricate from their lives or,heaven forbid, start seeing other people. They desperately want to friendzone you so they have a fallback option or because they lack confidence in their decision. Men may do the same thing, but this seems to be the trait that more women display. Either way, let her know clearly how you feel and then just disappear. It will be painful, but you will forever be on her leash like a stupid puppy dog otherwise. TFY
TheFriend Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Sounds to me like she likes to keep you around for when she needs you without the commitment. That is a very bad/painful place to be. Your scenario is also showing how the mental side of nc comes in to play... When she doesn't hear from you it probably makes her think "hmmmmm i wonder if he is still on that fishing line i cast out... Better give it a tug and check" As envious as I am of you getting to talk to and see you ex/ i am also thankful that I don't hear from mine because it would have set me back even further if i had. Be careful also tho you may get a nice little curveball thrown at you when you hear from her again. Look at my post" most effed up thing ever" I don't want you experiencing anything like that you need to cut ties until she comes begging back:(
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