thebrokenone Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Hi... first time poster here.. Seeking help on an unexpected twist to my life. I met this girl a month ago at my sisters wedding. We talked that night and clicked right away. Over the past few weeks we had been staying up late at night talking and just forming a friendship. She had told me a few times she had a boyfriend.. But she continued to text and talk. She had told me a week ago she was starting to feel confused and she had some decisions to make. I didnt try to get any answers as to what that was I just told her if she wanted to vent or talk I was there to listen. Thursday we continued talking as normal and later that night she started to ask weird questions.. like What do you think of me etc... I answered.. Friday night she sent me a message and asked if she could come over I said that was fine. She came and brought a couple movies. So we put one in and she walked over to where I was sitting and sat down next to me. We were talking and as we talked she kept moving a little closer. Then she started to rub my hand And then She leaned over to kiss me. I felt awkward and sat back on the couch. And continued to watch the movie. Of course my emotions were going crazy as any persons would do. But I just kept thinking WHY ? then we started to kiss more.. and things esculated .. but we stopped them before they went to far. I said that it didnt feel right because she does have a boyfriend. She tells me that he is decent. they have dated for 2 months and they do get into arguements quite abit and he kinda treats her like she is not a priority but it really is none of my business.. So anyhow she stayed friday until 6 am saturday. Nothing happend past a kiss and a lil touching.. then we stopped.. Saturday night I got a message that said that she doesnt want to lose me and that for right now she needs to figure out what is going on between her boyfriend and her. And that in the future she does see us getting together it is just the wrong time right now.. but she wants to continue talking. Because she had never been so open with any one like she has been with me. I took it kinda hard but I understood.. I told her I would wait and continue to talk to her.. but it is hard because I do have feelings for her.. She is an amazing girl and I hope her bf understands that about her. My problem is I cant stop thinking about her. The past month has been the greatest time of my life. This morning she texted me and asked how I was doing and she continued to text after that. She still is as I write this.. Should I just withdrawl myself (as hard as it would be) from her life all together so she can go on and focus her attention on her bf.. or should I continue to talk to her as I had been ? I have been divorced for a few years now.. I have dated since my divorce.. but I have never met one like her.. Honestly I didnt think people like her existed.
hudson701 Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 She has a boyfriend. End of story. Withdraw and move on as you Will always be second fiddle.
Author thebrokenone Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 I was feeling the same way... If I am not good enough now.. I sure wont be in the future... I also feel bad because I let it happen in the first place
Author thebrokenone Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 The bad thing is how do I rebuild myself ? If I am not good enough for a girl like her to choose me first.. Then it feels like I would not be good enough for anyone of her caliber..
Author thebrokenone Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 ...lol... Maybe I shoulda been gay...lol.. I do not want to waste time.. A couple of years and I will be 40. Don't have much time to waste... I will miss her
Author thebrokenone Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 Yes.. I have been broken for years.. My marriage was a disaster my ex was abusive and it sent me into a depression unlike any other.. Two yrs after the divorce I met a woman that had security issues, and her parents financially supported her so that all didn't work.. Then I met another that wanted to control everything and was very selfish . I did and had me spending thousands of dollars once I cut the money off she took off Then I met another that was still wrapped around her ex husbands finger and did everything to please him Then I met this one that was far beyond any of the others... But she didn't want me in the end... I have been in counseling for 4 yrs now.. I rebuilt myself after my marriage then I just got beat around by women... I always fall for the wrong ones I do not know why
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