spicerp Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I and a handful of old male friends are in our late fifties or older. We have all been single all our lives. The others have virtually made no effort at all to find themselves partners, having resigned themselves long ago to never finding one. I have been an inhibited 'love-shy' for decades, as I suspect the other are, but in recent years have got some understanding of my condition and have tried to overcome it by psychological training, with some success. I have also studied dating and flirting books, have approached scores of women and done internet dating for months. All of this has come to nothing and I am still without a partner. Who is the biggest fool, me or my friends. After all, they have saved themselves a lot of trouble.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I was under the impression that the old term "confirmed bachelor" was a polite way of saying someone was probably gay. You are just guys who had really bad luck at love. Some of us have at least one good 20 year plus marriage in our lives. Some of us have nothing but a trail of crazy women and broken personal dreams. Some of us are spared the pain of the crazy and given the pain of nothing. You are not a fool. One more thing. At 50 you could still live another 50 years. You could bump into a woman of age 40 or 50 herself and have a good long relationship yet. Give up active hope if you wish. Life and love have a way of doing what they will to us.
Esoteric Elf Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I and a handful of old male friends are in our late fifties or older. We have all been single all our lives. The others have virtually made no effort at all to find themselves partners, having resigned themselves long ago to never finding one. I have been an inhibited 'love-shy' for decades, as I suspect the other are, but in recent years have got some understanding of my condition and have tried to overcome it by psychological training, with some success. I have also studied dating and flirting books, have approached scores of women and done internet dating for months. All of this has come to nothing and I am still without a partner. Who is the biggest fool, me or my friends. After all, they have saved themselves a lot of trouble. This is the first time I have seen that terminology used. Welcome, dude, that is precisely what I am. Ever heard of Dr. Gilmartin? There is too little information for me to claim either is a fool, but, from what little you give me, I will say neither. You are a male acting a female in the dating game, which is a no-no. Women will not approach, brother, so LS, as potentially irrevocable, will retard a man's DSR life beyond the reaches of DSR itself. What is interesting is that there are so many of you in one place, as this condition is not common. Nevertheless, welcome. Is there a community where these unfortunate men hang out? Damn, I could move there. I wish you the best. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I and a handful of old male friends are in our late fifties or older. We have all been single all our lives. The others have virtually made no effort at all to find themselves partners, having resigned themselves long ago to never finding one. I have been an inhibited 'love-shy' for decades, as I suspect the other are, but in recent years have got some understanding of my condition and have tried to overcome it by psychological training, with some success. I have also studied dating and flirting books, have approached scores of women and done internet dating for months. All of this has come to nothing and I am still without a partner. Who is the biggest fool, me or my friends. After all, they have saved themselves a lot of trouble. It's all a personal choice. Maybe they're perfectly content with being single (there are many people like this) and you're just projecting your feelings onto them. I don't think any of you are fools, but if you want something (which it sounds like you do), you should go after it.
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