Geiss Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I was working at this job for the past 2 days and I was chatting with this girl and her co worker I think. I was trying to figure out if they were married or dating or just co workers. Didn't really find that out. I looked at her hand to see if there was any marriage ring and I didn't see any. So when I was about to leave I wanted to say goodbye and then she asked me if I had a girlfriend. And I told her no and she said why not you're such a nice guy. And I said something dumb like well maybe someday hopefully. And I got all shy and a bit of panic began to set in and I bolted. She was kind of looking at me and I couldn't tell if she was trying to say yes ask me out. I did throughout the day catch her looking at me but also she caught me looking at her. She also asked for help to untangle some necklace and it seemed like she was deliberately trying to touch me. She also gave me cookies. Now I did kind of blow it by not ballsing up and asking for her number then and there but I do have her business card that her co worker gave me or whoever he is. Hopefully not boyfriend or husband. I can still call her. So I just want to know when women ask a guy if he has a girlfriend does it mean their interested or does it depend on the situation? Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I was working at this job for the past 2 days and I was chatting with this girl and her co worker I think. I was trying to figure out if they were married or dating or just co workers. Didn't really find that out. I looked at her hand to see if there was any marriage ring and I didn't see any. So when I was about to leave I wanted to say goodbye and then she asked me if I had a girlfriend. And I told her no and she said why not you're such a nice guy. And I said something dumb like well maybe someday hopefully. And I got all shy and a bit of panic began to set in and I bolted. She was kind of looking at me and I couldn't tell if she was trying to say yes ask me out. I did throughout the day catch her looking at me but also she caught me looking at her. She also asked for help to untangle some necklace and it seemed like she was deliberately trying to touch me. She also gave me cookies. Now I did kind of blow it by not ballsing up and asking for her number then and there but I do have her business card that her co worker gave me or whoever he is. Hopefully not boyfriend or husband. I can still call her. So I just want to know when women ask a guy if he has a girlfriend does it mean their interested or does it depend on the situation? It is definitely possible that she is either interested or has someone in mind for you. If you are looking, don't pass up these chances, that's how I met my gf. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 My ex from highschool asks me this everytime I bump into her (she happens to be friends with my neighbor so it happens fairly often). Her body language seems to suggests she wants me as well. The last time she asked I said "no but I'm taking applications". And then she started playing all hard to get. But she's a cool chick so I might play along. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Geiss Posted April 28, 2013 Author Share Posted April 28, 2013 Well I could phone her tomorrow and ask her out. Since I have her business card. I didn't know her name though. I'm really bad at introducing myself but I overheard what her name was. It's something I have to work on. As far as she know I'm the AV guy. She will know me. But I'm still kind of wondering what are women's intentions when they ask a guy if he has a girlfriend. I'm pretty clueless when it comes to reading signs. It was probably wise of me not to ask her out there until I could regroup otherwise I would have fumbled the words and been all awkward and shy. I'm just not very good at asking for numbers. It's quite a nerve wracking experience. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 There's more of a possibility that she is checking with someone else in mind who's looking for a date / bf than a big hint that she wants to date you. The response you want when asked that is what you said followed by "what about you? any bf's?" They will almost certainly tell you they are dating yada yada but give some hint at might be able to make themselves available for a date if that's their intent with you. You need to have the second part of that conversation with her first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 (edited) When they ask you if you're married and you say no and then there is that follow up question, speak in broken English and say "why, you want?" and gesture yourself. "You want? I give". Lighten it up and see how it proceeds. You don't owe anyone any explanations or even personal information. Girls used to ask me for directions quite often when I worked in NYC, I was such a chump that I usually gave them directions. Smarten up. They want to engage you, not collect data. Edited April 28, 2013 by Feelin Frisky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Geiss Posted May 5, 2013 Author Share Posted May 5, 2013 Well I think everyone was pretty much wrong on this one. The few people that responded, thanks anyways and people some friends I talked too. I phoned her and she initially forgot who I was and so I had to remind her. Then she realized who I was and said hello and blah blah blah. So then I told her the reason why I was phoning was basically to see if she wanted to go out sometime. She was going well hmmm, I'm kind of busy with the store and everything, hmmmm, how old are you. And I told her 37 and she told me well she was 48. I was like what. She didn't look it. At that point I just said well take it easy and bye. It was kind of funny how everyone was telling me that she was interested when she wasn't. So it just goes to show, nobody knows what the hell they are talking about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Geiss Posted May 5, 2013 Author Share Posted May 5, 2013 Oh well at least I tried. First time I asked out a girl without any alcohol in my system in a long time. I did it completely sober. That's why I was so damn nervous. It actually wasn't too bad and I wasn't really to broken up and her rejecting me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr_Flay Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 Well, the way you described the situation, it definitely seemed like she was interested in you. Your original post was heavily coloured by your own view of things, so don't blame it on other posters for drawing the same conclusion when they only had your description to go on. Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 Oh well at least I tried. First time I asked out a girl without any alcohol in my system in a long time. I did it completely sober. That's why I was so damn nervous. It actually wasn't too bad and I wasn't really to broken up and her rejecting me. She had a few years on you, she probably didn't see a match there. Good on you for trying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Geiss Posted May 5, 2013 Author Share Posted May 5, 2013 Well, the way you described the situation, it definitely seemed like she was interested in you. Your original post was heavily coloured by your own view of things, so don't blame it on other posters for drawing the same conclusion when they only had your description to go on. Yeah you're right sorry about that. Link to post Share on other sites
jeni4566 Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 She already gave you a cookie Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted May 6, 2013 Share Posted May 6, 2013 Well I think everyone was pretty much wrong on this one. The few people that responded, thanks anyways and people some friends I talked too. It was kind of funny how everyone was telling me that she was interested when she wasn't. So it just goes to show, nobody knows what the hell they are talking about. I think my exact words were there was more of a possibility that she was checking for someone else than indicating interest in in you. I checked. Yeah, those were my exact words. Link to post Share on other sites
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