sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 In the last week I've had 2 exes get in touch. Things ended on good terms with both, but they definitely ended so I was a bit surprised to be invited out for drinks. Went for a drink with one, going for a drink with the other next week. Must be the season for it!
Buttercup84 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Well as long as you are friends and it won't be messy, no worries.
Author sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 Yeah, it shouldn't be messy. I'm just surprised at the coincidence of two exes getting in touch at about the same time. Also, don't these things happen in threes? so who's next?
Buttercup84 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Haha. Let us know if there is another ex who gets in touch. Do you have feelings for any of them .?
Leegh Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 The same thing happened to me fairly recently, except he wasn't an ex, but he and I had gone out a few times. I thought he was long gone, it had been months since I heard from him. So surprised to hear his voice on my answering machine. How long had it been since you had spoken with the two guys that recently got in touch with you, if I may ask? Had they been married, and now divorced? In addition, I knew a guy many years ago from high school who married then divorced a number of years later and called me out of the blue. If these guys seem nice, then I think it is great that you are seeing them again.
Author sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 Do you have feelings for any of them .? Not any more. They're both still attractive, though.
Author sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 How long had it been since you had spoken with the two guys that recently got in touch with you, if I may ask? Girls. One a few months, and one about a year.
Author sillyanswer Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 Update on this, having seen them both now... They're both still attractive, though. I was surprised to find that one of them I didn't even find attractive, although I don't think her looks have changed - just my perception. The other one still looks great. One of them wanted platonic male companionship at a meetup event because she didn't want to get hit on by guys going there just to find girls. That made me laugh, since it's a topic that comes up here occasionally. The other wanted professional advice in my field, which I'm happy to give in exchange for beer.
RedRobin Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Update on this, having seen them both now... I was surprised to find that one of them I didn't even find attractive, although I don't think her looks have changed - just my perception. The other one still looks great. One of them wanted platonic male companionship at a meetup event because she didn't want to get hit on by guys going there just to find girls. That made me laugh, since it's a topic that comes up here occasionally. The other wanted professional advice in my field, which I'm happy to give in exchange for beer. Thanks for posting this... some folks here need to see there is more to life... and that some rewarding discussions and good times had without expectations. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 When you part on good terms, good relationships can be had with exes. I have two that I talk to almost daily. Both hot and both taken and I have no romantic interest in either. We actually give each other dating advice! LOL! You can imagine what that's like. 1
Jefezen Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 How do you explain exes who return after things ended so badly that you or they forbade contact? I've had that happen to me fairly recently with two women. One of them seems romantically interested in me again after over a year of zero contact. The other one I can't quite figure out; she just messages me on Facebook now and then to ask how I'm doing and otherwise ignores me.
apple OR orange Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 ive never really had any "x's" due to only being used for stuff, they wasnt going out with me (money, car, friend.... everything except sex or life). Ive had one contact me on facebook (i dont really use it, only have about 5 people on there) so the questions i got where to work out if she could use me again, however this was 10 years later. Its ironic as all the guys i hear complain about women are always the women who "would only marry once and for life" or other such "perfect promise". The one who contacted me was only ever going to marry once, shes been married 3 times i think and married some real idiots (one just out of prison), i never believe anything another human says to me, has done me well so far.
Author sillyanswer Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 i never believe anything another human says to me You're not going to give me $1000.
soccerrprp Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 i never believe anything another human says to me, has done me well so far. How depressing. Really, never? There's clearly a long history that has lead to this. Sorry. But if you are content. Good for you.
RedRobin Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 How do you explain exes who return after things ended so badly that you or they forbade contact? I've had that happen to me fairly recently with two women. One of them seems romantically interested in me again after over a year of zero contact. The other one I can't quite figure out; she just messages me on Facebook now and then to ask how I'm doing and otherwise ignores me. I dunno. Sometimes I think they feel bad and want some kind of forgiveness, or they are just sick and want to twist the knife somemore. I don't stay in touch with exes where there has been meanness, betrayal, or stalking/harassment. You have to ask yourself the question... knowing what I know now about this person, would I choose to be friends with them?? Are they a decent person? If not, then forget it.
apple OR orange Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 How depressing. Really, never? There's clearly a long history that has lead to this. Sorry. But if you are content. Good for you. Going to quantify that as... "believe what they say that will relate to me as the person". So if its for work, money etc, then i do.. so that means: "yes we will sign the contract and get it to you by Friday" “will make sure you have your car back on Wednesday” Both of the above I believe "yeah, i'll call you to arrange to go out” “I’ll meet you Sunday for dinner” Both of the above I do not believe. I base my statement on personal experience, every work / money pertaining statement has always come true, any statement relating to me as a person has always been a lie without exception.
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