Leegh Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 I met a guy last night at a friend's small party last night. Initially, I thought I was not interested in him, and when he suggested getting together at a future date, I told him I had been dating someone for several months, (which is not true). I didn't want to be rude and tell him I was not interested. I made a mistake of judging someone too quickly, and after he and I had talked for about another 40 minutes I realized that I was indeed interested in going out with him. Then, to sound like I could be available, I said that the person I was dating, that he and I didn't get along that well and that it will probably be over soon. I thought this may give him the impression that I may be available soon. He has my phone number, but do you think this is a major turn-off to him, that he thinks I'm already dating someone? He does not seem like an aggressive type of guy. I'm thinking if I don't hear from him in a few weeks, I may give him a call. What do you folks think? Next time I meet someone I am not going to be quick to judge them and reject them, unless they are really bad. I certainly am not perfect myself! Thanks for any help!
FrustratedGuy91 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Well, I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to dating but I have sort of a rule. "If two people are happy together, GET THE F AWAY FROM THEM". I don't know what impression you gave him, but if I were in his place I wouldn't get near you.
SJC2008 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Just don't be like my uncles ex wife and say yesto a marriage proposal because you don't have the balls to say no.
outsidethebox Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 well, she said they weren't happy, so that rules out the one maxim suggested. OP, there are some who contend that what you did is the best strategy, that the guy is driven to win you over, lie to him to dangle bait, "I'm involved but it may be over", yada yada. Then others who say that for many reasons they wouldn't want to get involved with you, you're still involved, you'd flake out on them like you're doing this (imaginary) guy, yada yada. Who knows? As far as I can tell women are always in some relationship if they can be and set up their next relationship while in the current one if they can, so it's not like guys aren't used to it. Are they extra motivated to win you over from the faltering relationship? I doubt it, I think it's a myth but since women are always moving out of a faltering relationship to the next one (because they can) anything could be attributed to it. Since you talked enough to each other to exchange info even after you told him you were with someone, he sought the number knowing it, so should use it if he thinks you're receptive. You've set that up with might break up, just texting hi is all you need to do and when he asks about the guy simply reply I'm not seeing anyone now. That's all you need and he's yours. Well we'll see if it works anyway.
Imported Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Whether you weren't sure about the guy you were currently dating or not lasting, I'd have lost all interest at that point. I want no part of a girl currently seeing someone else. She should sort that out before going out with me. Not go out with me to decide which guy she likes better. Yes, I realize you were lying to him, but he doesn't know that, right. I'd politely talk with you and that's about it. We'd have never exchanged contact info though, at least by my effort.
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