Necris Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 I noticed even though I have never had a girlfriend, and can't even ever get a 2nd date. Amongst my friends and family I'm still always asked to give dating and relationship advice. Which is okay, but I wonder why would they ask me, for example recently one of my friends wanted to get with this girl so he would ask me what should he do, how far is he progressing in the relationship, etc. What do you think? Are you a dating/relationship advice giving person?
Noproblem Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Sure I am! It needs common sense and logic, enough said!
Noproblem Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 I have the "hello kitty" to prove my experience
Feelin Frisky Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Yes. I'm a dispenser whilst being celibate most of the time. I learned a lot though from making uninformed choices and being a caboose to my penis. So, at my age, I can offer sense that I wish I had when I made my own mistakes. Nobody in my family asks me though--they all made mistakes they are suffering with.
Author Necris Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 kudos for paying it forward. What do you mean by that?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 I actually try to avoid giving advice IRL, despite the fact that I'm pretty experienced.
outsidethebox Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 What do you mean by that? paying it forward is to do for someone else what someone has done for you.
carhill Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 What do you think? Are you a dating/relationship advice giving person? Like myself, you apparently haven't learned how to say the words 'Tell your problems to someone else'. Or, as my best friend's wife often says 'You sure complain a lot'. We both apparently have a hard time being direct and occasionally rude to women. Unclear why that is for you. For me, it's due to socialization and strong role modeling, which apparently doesn't work in todays often brutal society. Try something else.
shiver23 Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 You're probably the "mature" one in your group of friends. Even if you can't get a date as you say, you most likely have the rest of your life under control. People assume that if you're smart, you're most likely a good people observer as well and therefore have great dating advice! I know that was the case for me in highschool when I was single. Now all my friends are married/common-law and I'm still single. That's life I guess.
somedude81 Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I noticed even though I have never had a girlfriend, and can't even ever get a 2nd date. Amongst my friends and family I'm still always asked to give dating and relationship advice. Which is okay, but I wonder why would they ask me, for example recently one of my friends wanted to get with this girl so he would ask me what should he do, how far is he progressing in the relationship, etc. What do you think? Are you a dating/relationship advice giving person? Yeah, anybody who asks you for dating advice knowing your situation isn't that smart. Who would ask a homeless man for investment tips?
carhill Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Missed the 'guy' part; sorry about that. Guys of my generation and social circle historically don't ask each other for dating advice and generally don't complain about their failures/problems/issues. Husbands sometimes do but I just change the subject. Men are easy to handle, being one. We're used to getting 'tough love'. Try that and see how it works out.
Author Necris Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Yeah, anybody who asks you for dating advice knowing your situation isn't that smart. Who would ask a homeless man for investment tips? Yeah that's a bit harsh. In a way think of it this way, I noticed when I talk to experienced people about how to ask a woman out or dating advice I'm always given "oh don't worry, just do your thing and it will come naturally". So maybe I offer something better then that from my inexperience.
somedude81 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Yeah that's a bit harsh. In a way think of it this way, I noticed when I talk to experienced people about how to ask a woman out or dating advice I'm always given "oh don't worry, just do your thing and it will come naturally". So maybe I offer something better then that from my inexperience. I don't mean to be harsh, just real. If somebody asked me for dating advice, and they know my history, I'd call them an idiot. Well not to their face, but I'd certainly be thinking it. All we can do is give "common sense" type advice.
StanMusial Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I noticed even though I have never had a girlfriend, and can't even ever get a 2nd date. Amongst my friends and family I'm still always asked to give dating and relationship advice. Which is okay, but I wonder why would they ask me, for example recently one of my friends wanted to get with this girl so he would ask me what should he do, how far is he progressing in the relationship, etc. What do you think? Are you a dating/relationship advice giving person? Probably because you tell them what they want to hear.
Roadkill007 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 you're the relationship guy because you're on the outside and you have a clearer view of what's going on. When you're "in the fray" you tend to miss a lot of things because you don't have the perspective. And also your family and friends seem to know you'll be supportive of them
TheGuard13 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Also it could be because you're not judgemental...and somewhat nonthreatening. IE, girls feel they can tell you their problems and you won't use them to manipulate them into sex with you or some such nonsense.
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