Should I add him in Facebook or wait for Hinton tell me something?

[Kimxoxo]

I need some advice on what to do. There's this guy that I have know for about a year but we had never talked before. Last a couple of weeks ago the day after my brothers wedding he was talking with my mom and i was their to be we didn't really talk. Last Sunday I saw him again and he told me he was looking for me on Facebook because he wanted to add me. I told him my name on Facebook. Then he told me something but I didn't hear him I just heard him tell me that his name on FB was ______ and I just said oh ok. But a week has passed and he hasn't added me yet. I don't know if he told me to add him but I feel kinda weird adding him. He used to like my cousin and I don't want to add him really because I know my family and they are going to start saying that I just added him because I want to talk to him just because he liked my cousin. I know i could just ad him and get it over wit but i think i kinda like him so its kind of important that i do the right thing. Should I just wait to see what he tells me next time I see him?

[Sebes]

There is a lot of stuff going on there. I'd message him on fb and exchange numbers. See where that goes. If you still like him talk with your family and your cousin after.

 

You could talk to them before as well, it really isn't any of their business. I get you are being loyal and respectful but a year is long enough. Good luck with whatever you end up doing. Hey, if you don't do anything there are still plenty of fish in the sea

[steveT95]

Sounds like you are over-thinking this a lot. Just add him. After all it is only facebook, although it seems like it at times, the world does not revolve around it. Add him, chat, see how things go. If it goes somewhere, great! If it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.

 

Good luck

[whichwayisup]

Call him. Why add him so quickly? All that does is have your communications online instead of either face to face or a phone call. keep it real by getting to know him offline and not online.

[ForeverHopeful1]

Call him. Why add him so quickly? All that does is have your communications online instead of either face to face or a phone call. keep it real by getting to know him offline and not online.

 

It doesnt sound like she even knows his number, or I saw NOTHING in her post saying she knew his number and ONLY knows his name on FB. So she cannot call him without a number, and perhaps asking for it on FB would be best. I find it odd that people dont read posts before giving advice. Where did she say she had his phone number?

 

Kimxoxo - Do you have any privacy settings where finding you would be hard? I have deactivated my account now, but I always had my name blocked to anyone who didnt know me. So if you have set your privacy settings like this, he may not be able to even see you at all. Bite the bullet, dont overthink this and add him if you like him or think you may hit it off. You are clearly attracted to him if you are this nervous about sending a friend request on facebook of all things, so just go with it and get it done!!! It is ONLY facebook, not reality. Use FB to get his number and then communicate and then pick up your phone and call him. Be straight up. Be forward. Go after him if you want him!!! I would see how that goes and then run it past your cousin to ensure they have no hard feelings about you two spending time together or dating. I dont know what the situation was with them. If he just had a crush on her and they never went out or anything, I dont see her being upset about you seeing him. If she dated him, at all, even once, I would not pursue him at all. Thats just me though. Good luck!

 

Add him!