turnerik Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 My ex girlfriend is 18. I'm 20. We dated for 3 1/2 years. She dumped me a month ago. She said we are taking a break. It's her senior year in high school. She just said she needs some time with her friends, and I have been smothering. I've done a lot to improve myself over the past month. I began counseling, began medication, began reading relationship books. The first couple of weeks I did all the wrong things. ( calling, showing up at her house, waiting for her after school, begging, and stuff like that) the first week apart she told me she still loves me. Then a few days later, I got put in a hospital for suicidal thoughts. I didn't text or post on Facebook or anything. I couldn't. A few weeks later she agreed to spend a few hours at the zoo with me. We had a great time, at the end she gave me a hug, and I asked her what I'm suppose to do. She said she needs space and time for her friends. I asked her what I could do. She said a few texts are OK. She also said she doesn't want me to date anyone else, and she promised to do the same. ( I know she is telling the truth, just trust me) I didn't contact her until today (Friday) because I couldn't handle it anymore,and she said she was sick on Facebook, so I wanted to wish her well. Today I just randomly broke down, moving boxes from my old apartment, to my new one. ( she still lives at home, never lived with me.) I have no idea what happened, but I just started crying. I guess I'm asking for help. You may say move on, but it seems impossible, I'm really not ready, and no matter what I do, she's always on my mind. I hate going out with friends because I bring the, down, and feel worse. I work full time, and I'm actually getting a second job. I want her back, and you may say I'm not ready, but I am. I know what I have to do to make this work. How do I get a chance? Can I ask her out for lunch, and for her to see my new apartment. On our date to the zoo she seemed interested! Please help!
ThatJustHappened Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Asking her out is the very worst thing you can do right now. She has told you repeatedly that she wants space, so give it to her! Give yourself a few days to wallow and then get your butt up and out of your apartment. Start small, like walks and lunch with a friend, and work your way up to larger activities. Focus on work, don't slack there. Her biggest complaint about you is that you smother her, so stop smothering her!
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