Username37 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm a little torn about how I feel. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years already and in these 2 years, she's been having the same problems. Problems with her parents, her friends, school, and all of that. It's to the point where that's all she talks about and I'm drained constantly telling her the same thing. We're in a long distance relationship and I've been very busy doing my own thing. Communication is mostly done through text and when we call each other it has to be during a time when it's totally free. Lately with finals and big projects coming, tha'ts been really tough. I think she's mad at me because I wasn't able to call her when I told her in advance that I would be extremely busy. I don't know, I feel bad that I'm getting irritated with her constantly having problems but at the same time, it's really eating me up inside. What should I do? EDIT: i can tell that she's pissed at me because she won't text me back when I tell her I love her.
Keenly Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 If the only conversations you ever have are her complaining about her problems, that's not a relationship, that's her using you as a bitching container. If your giving it your all in your ltr, and she is just whining and complaining, and then gets mad when you don't want to talk about it... where is the relationship ? 3
darkmoon Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 i think she will go thru life like this, not seeing others' pov, sorry, and look more closely at how she has heavy problems that she actually easily bucks in order to show you that she's mad her problems show that her entire world is against her which doesn't show much of a vote in her favour 1
clia Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Where does the scale tip? From a big picture viewpoint, is she adding more positive to your life than negative? It doesn't sound like it. I can't imagine being with someone who was constantly complaining about the same things for two years. It doesn't sound like a very fun relationship. Life is way too short to remain in situations where you aren't happy. 1
Author Username37 Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 Like our relationship has been great. No big fights. But the only time we truly fight is over communication. We broke up before because of that reason (strangely around this time too) and since then trying to avoid that problem again. Seems like we hit that spot again, but then again, she likes to overthink things so I won't be surprised that she's STILL thinking about that time last year and she's worried that it will happen again.
russellfitch1980 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Finally someone who has a similar problem as me, I've only been with my girlfriend for a little over 7 months but this is exactly what is happening with me, minus the long distance relationship. My girl gets stressed non stop and always bitches to me about school, her exams, parents, annoying friends or people in her class, at some point you have to talk to her. I talked to my girlfriend just the other week, and it caused a fight between us but it needs to be done. Tell her how you feel, if you truly love each other she will understand and change her attitude and how she treats you. After the fight my girlfriend was mad, but hey I told her what was on my mind. She was mad, did the same thing your girlfriend was doing, not really replying to me, not telling me she loves me, but after a day or two of space she came around and apologized to me and told me she loves me and will try better. Hang in there, things will work out for the best. You have been with her for 2 years so there must be something special between you two. Keep at it and let her know how you feel, if she doesn't listen or doesn't change, then dump her. Until then give it a try. Hope this helps
outsidethebox Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 yeah, but it's temporary. In my experience when they have that type of personality that's it. That's what they dwell on, that's what they do. They bitch about people around them. With complaining they are bitching about you to someone else. It never stops.
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