Always Thinking Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 I met a man online in May and did not rush out and meet him! We actually started seeing each other in July! As soon as we starting seeing each other it just seemed right. We were never technically in a Relationship! We talked on the phone every day and hung out most of time! (2 months of nonstop seeing each other). Either I was at his place( I have a toothbrush clothes and other personal items over there) or he was at mine! We even went to various events and spent 3 nights in Vegas together!( Which he paid for everything) From the start of the friendship we got along we compliment each other! We were able to communicate open and honestly! He always indicated that he why he likes me and enjoys my company I am SPECIAL! We kissed, hugged, gave massage, rubbed, however we never had intercourse! I understood that we were both single and tired of the dating game and utimatley we wanted to be in serious relationship! We both had be in long term relationships in the past! I was in a six in a half year relationship that ended in 2000. I do not remain in cotact with my ex's however he indicated that he keeps in contact with all of his ex's however it is not constant contact. As far as I knew it we both were only datign each other. I always appreciated the fact that we had open and honest conversations, shared our feelings and what not! I really like spending time with him he is indeed a sweetheart, however It felt like he wanted an instant relationship or hear the words relationship come out of my mouth! He would always say, so what are we? Or I can see us end up married. He has love for me in his heart. He also indicated we do and talk about things he and his ex's never did. He gave me keys to his place, gargage, and mailbox in like a month of us seeing each other. I was hesitant still for some reason! I felt like we needed to slow down eventhough we had spent an enormous amout of time we each other, however we still needed to really get to know one another! We were moving too FAST! I gave the keys back (since I was not going to give him a key to my place) we talked about the situation and felt that we were on the same page, he agreed for us to slow things down he too did not want to rush into anything! If we were to end up married and (This being special and all). We went back to hanging out and talking the phone throughout the day. We had made plans to go to the fair in a couple of days. The night before the evet he called me said that he was thinking about me he missed me. This was not unusual due to the fact we talked and flirted with each other all of the time. The the following day (event day) I did not hear from him. I left him a message on his cell phone . A few minutes later he called me back and stated , " as much as I like you," my ex came over my house last night and we talked and I may be getting back with her, we are going to try and work things out, so I do not think we should see each other the way we have been, but I am still your friend! I was shocked! What ex saying to myself where did this all come from! We just talked about our friendship developing into a Relationship. Normally we would share our feelings and talk things out! I was hurt, that he could for one tell me this info over the phone and be cold about. My feelings on ex's is...... they are an ex for a reason! I told him good luck due to the fact life is temporary, however I did not want to remain friends with him. I questioned his feelings about me and even indicated this is what you do to someone you carre about I do not want part in it... he got uspest! I tried to explain to him that I am simply reacting to this out of the blue news. I did not feel like this is how a FRIEND handles a situation. He said that he was being adult about it and informed me of what was going on! I told him yeah eventhough his delivery sucked! It was not like we were fighting we just had this long talk the last time we seen each was sealed with a KISS, He then went on to say I want to be friends you don't and hung up! Six days passed, I left him a note on his door (we live around the corner from each other) to obtain my personal items left at his place I had to leave a note because he has since changed his phone number. He responded to my note via a phone call from a blocked number and indicated that he will give back my items but and that I can't call him back. I went over to his place and he opened his door half-way as to hide something or give you that feeling that you are not welcomed here, he gave me $40.00 for my clothing items in which he says that he threw away then handed me the rest of my belongings. Prior to this contact I have not called him nor gone by his place! He was very as of matter of fact and angery, as if I did something! I am trying to firgure out why! How does a situation that seemed right, end up like this?
Orchid Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 How does a situation that seemed right, end up like this? Things didn't really seem right... you knew it. Trust your gut instincts. Constantly asking to see where things stand, saying things like he can see you married, giving you keys to his place, garage and mailbox... all after only a month is questionable. Who knows what his game was, but it all came to a crashing halt as soon as you said you wanted to slow down.... that should tell you the guy wasn't genuine. The ex story sounds like baloney to me... you rejected him (ended his game), he had to find a plausible way to reject you (end the game his way). You gotta let this one go.... coz it isn't worth dwelling on, be grateful you were given a reprieve!.
bluechocolate Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 He gave me keys to his place, gargage, and mailbox in like a month of us seeing each other. And then took it all away just as quickly. This guy sounds pretty unstable to me. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of him so quickly. I know you're disappointed, but chalk it up as a strange little experience & move on.
beautiful Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 This is a perfect example again of how women give up their power to men they do not know! Get to know a man's character BEFORE you have sex with him! Once sex is in the picture , the thinking clouds and we do not see what is real! In your case, I feel you were a rebound. Men will get involved very quickly once they come out of a longterm relationship. Women do that to at times. Let him go and be thankful that he is out of your life. Again..................get a life........than get a man! There is actually a book out to that fact you may like to buy it and read it! Don't give up yourself so fast for a man you really don't know! One more thing..................anything TO FAST..............is what it is TO FAST! NOT REAL! RED FLAG!
Author Always Thinking Posted September 21, 2004 Author Posted September 21, 2004 Thanks for your reply, however you were way off. I never indicated that I had sex with the man! You need to re-read what I wrote then respond to it! Thanks for the replies I am looking for honest feedback!
Author Always Thinking Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 Looking forward to reading more of your insights on this!
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