hopefullove Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 My commitment phobic EX broke up with me 6 months ago and I haven't seen him since. He left these woodworking clamps in my apartment and I have given him many chances to come get them. He even agreed to a time and then just never showed up. We havent talked in 2 months but I messaged him and we were chatting, and mentioned that he hopes I still have those clamps but never said when he would get them. So the next day I said I would give them to my coworker, and now he says he wants them back, but still wont give me a time. He said when he gets a new place he will come for his stupid clamps. Ok is this a trap? Or what is the deal? I'm really annoyed all he cares about are his dumb clamps. But he wont set a time to get them, i feel these are all his control issues again. Does he care about his clamps or again, is this a trap?
Ayeo Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Same thing happened to me 3 weeks ago, if you want to read my story, rather than me re-write it here feel free. But, it ended with texts back and forth, her having a go at the way I supposedly mistreat her, me apologizing and that was it. She didn't reply. To summarize, she did it, I think to get an inkling of where i was at with my life and when I didn't beg for her back, she disappeared again. So, for your situation, if you have any feelings for him and are brave enough to tell him exactly how you feel go for it. If not, then give them to someone else to give them to him and have NC from now.
youngnlove89 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Throw the dumb things away. It's been SIX months. Really now? This isn't a "trap," he just simply doesn't care. He isn't thinking about it, that's why he keeps forgetting. And he isn't thinking about you either. You oughta just show him YOU don't care and just throw them away. When he asks you where they went, well, just say, "I'm not waiting for your indecisive a.ss any more, so I made the decision for you, now please stop contacting me about them!" In a metaphoric sense, this goes for your relationship also, throw it away. Move on. Don't keep holding on waiting for him to change, because he won't. He isn't coming to get them simply because he has made other plans and it isn't his PRIORITY. You aren't his priority. I hate commitment phobic people. I'm done wasting my time with it. You either want me or you don't, don't waste my time. (Sorry, I've been with an emotionally constipated man for so long that I just am annoyed by it. So I'm venting my anger through your post. I feel for you.) 1
Author hopefullove Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 i keep insulting him, and he just keeps absorbing everything i am saying, yes he really screwed me over. we lived together and everything seemed fine. but well, if you know what its like to deal with a commitment phobe then you know. i am very angry at him for sure. and i keep throwing insults at him, in my style of course and he just keeps laughing at them. My grandfather recently passed away and i said im glad we broke up because if now i wouldnt have gone back home to visit my family during the new year. He said from negatives comes positives. and i said, i think its a positive positive cus youre a jacka.ss and he laughs! im like yeah only a true jackas.s would laugh.... it's all like that.
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