tuxedo cat Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I like food but it's never been a huge hobby of mine. I consider myself a pretty well-rounded person when it comes to appreciating and taking pleasure in other aspects of culture. For whatever reason I've just never been that keen on experimenting with different foods. Sure I enjoy going to new restaurants but I don't get the same excitement out of it that a lot of people do. And I don't enjoy talking about food, taking pictures of it, watching people cook on tv. It's as if everyone around you is trying on and discussing different perfumes all the time. That's how I feel about food. Lately all of the guys I've dated have been hugely interested in food. In some cases it seems to be their sole hobby outside of work. My most recent ex spent hours cooking and watching the food network and top chef. The guy I'm seeing now--though ending things with--is also a foodie. I'm totally fine with dating people who are passionate about food and maybe it will even spark a latent interest within me, but what's frustrating is I get a judgy vibe from foodies when they discover I don't know much about the subject. One guy even said to me that if I didn't share his interest in food we wouldn't have much to talk about. Is this a thing, or am I just having a run of bad luck? Do I need to like take a cooking class and start watching the food network in order to improve my dating life?
Emilia Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm big on food BUT I don't like people who are obsessed with one thing and don't care about anything else. Like the guy that told you if you didn't share the interest in food, you would have nothing to talk about. There is a whole world out there Same when someone is obsessed with football or whatever, balance is key. 2
USMCHokie Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Is this a thing, or am I just having a run of bad luck? I think it's just a coincidence; though I might say it's more likely if you live in a heavily urban environment where diverse food options are readily available. And if food isn't your thing, then it isn't your thing. Food snobs tend to be a little weird, anyway... And there are certain "activities" and "interests" which are extremely cool to say you enjoy because of how impressive it is. Hiking and cooking are two of those activities that most people pretend to enjoy because of how "cultured" it makes you appear. It's like enjoying Dave Matthews Band back in high school. If you didn't *love* them, then you weren't cool. 3
Emilia Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Hiking and cooking are two of those activities that most people pretend to enjoy because of how "cultured" it makes you appear. and wine tasting. If you don't enjoy wine tasting then you should go and hide under a rock because no decent men will date you tuxedo cat 3
BluEyeL Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I cook all kinds of foods and can talk about it, didn't help my dating life, so I guess just a coincidence for you.
Sunshine87 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm a big foodie! I love cooking and I get giddy at the thought of exploring new restaurants. I also watch food network. While I was at university, my peers spent their money on the latest clothes and shoes while I spent mine exploring resturants and cooking up new recipes. Yes, that bad. However, I don't think my love for food necessarily aided my relationships. Some of my exes found it cute, some of them teased me about it and most of them admired my culinary skills. But thats because they enjoyed eating my food. In my culture, men loveeeeeee to have their women cook for them, Aside from that, I can't think of any reason why any guy would be so obsessed with food lol. We certainly didn't spend hours mulling over food. 2
rocketman122 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 From a person who works in the culinary field for many years, on an off, its my default profession, I can tell you I enjoy cooking and talking about food. but its not a big conversation thing. I like to be educated on many different things as well. I love cooking with my lady and love taking her to nice restaurants because she understands quality. But I always rate the food while were eating. like the last time when I had shrimp I would say the shrimp was cooked 30 seconds too long and in the sauce he could have added some lemon rind and roasted red peppers. but im a perfectionist so I complain about everything. if you arent much into the culinary world than you will not be successful with the guy since he very much loves it. my brother and me sometimes talk about getting food together and then its a big conversation about food. I talk about food because im passionate about it. even though I eat the most boring crap day to day. I respect and appreciate a chef who can cook and create great food. for you it seems, that food is grub to fill your stomach when youre hungry. I enjoy the dinner experience sitting at a table and given a chance to taste new tastes and flavors. but since I bodybuild and my diet is very specific, if I eat at a restaurant and the food sucks then im totally pissed off I hate to break my diet for something I didnt even enjoy..let alone pay for.. as far as wine goes, only red or dessert wine, especially made from gewurztraminer grapes. nice.
tbf Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 There are two sides to this where both sides need to open up their world so they're capable and interested in talking about each other's passions. As far as cooking, it's been one of my hobbies for years. I like to test new recipes on unwary guests. The added pressure to perform is a good motivator. 1
MissBee Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) I like food but it's never been a huge hobby of mine. I consider myself a pretty well-rounded person when it comes to appreciating and taking pleasure in other aspects of culture. For whatever reason I've just never been that keen on experimenting with different foods. Sure I enjoy going to new restaurants but I don't get the same excitement out of it that a lot of people do. And I don't enjoy talking about food, taking pictures of it, watching people cook on tv. It's as if everyone around you is trying on and discussing different perfumes all the time. That's how I feel about food. Lately all of the guys I've dated have been hugely interested in food. In some cases it seems to be their sole hobby outside of work. My most recent ex spent hours cooking and watching the food network and top chef. The guy I'm seeing now--though ending things with--is also a foodie. I'm totally fine with dating people who are passionate about food and maybe it will even spark a latent interest within me, but what's frustrating is I get a judgy vibe from foodies when they discover I don't know much about the subject. One guy even said to me that if I didn't share his interest in food we wouldn't have much to talk about. Is this a thing, or am I just having a run of bad luck? Do I need to like take a cooking class and start watching the food network in order to improve my dating life? LOVE food Certainly not obsessed though and I have many many other interests esp in a partner. I enjoy different cuisine, nice restaurants, watching cooking shows, reading food blogs, I take pictures of food, and one thing I enjoy with a partner is cooking and trying foods. One of my ex's really spoiled me in that regard as he was a foodie too and made deeeeelicious meals and was always game to try something new. I certainly see it is a plus for a man I'm seeing to truly enjoy food. That said though, if it's not your thing, it's just not and I see no reason why you should pretend to like it if you don't or try to date men who'll judge you for it. I'm sure there are many dudes who don't care about that, I've met many. Edited April 26, 2013 by MissBee 1
salparadise Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) Hiking and cooking are two of those activities that most people pretend to enjoy because of how "cultured" it makes you appear. It's like enjoying Dave Matthews Band back in high school. If you didn't *love* them, then you weren't cool. and wine tasting. If you don't enjoy wine tasting then you should go and hide under a rock because no decent men will date you tuxedo cat Nobody is going to tattoo an X on your forehead if you're not a dedicated foodie, wine connoisseur or attuned to certain musical genres, but not having an interest in certain things may leave you in the out group, i.e. not a participant in key aspects of the culture, if you're rubbing elbows with those groups of people. Culture is a fact of life and social interaction revolves around the popular interests of the time and group you have an affinity for (we all seek to identify with a group). I think it would do your dating life and your taste buds a world of good to become fluent enough to appreciate it all, if not become outright enthusiastic. I am with the woman I'm currently dating because of such interests. My dating site user name contained the name of a famous European opera house, I had photos of a seafood dish I'd made, and pics on my motorcycle at various places around the country. That's why she contacted me, that's what we talked about before meeting, and now those are among the fun things we do together. I had actually never been to an opera (secondary reference), but I am going to one this weekend... after we motorcycle up in the mountains to an exclusive resort and enjoy some great food and wine. Interests can open doors. I don't understand why you'd be resistant. What kind of hottie do you suppose I'd be hanging with this weekend if my username referenced Conway Twitty and my pics showed me gnashing hot dogs and swilling PBRs at a NASCAR race in my NRA t-shirt... which I've actually done (except the t-shirt)? Wynonna ain't my cuppa joe. Edited April 26, 2013 by salparadise
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