Starapple31 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Hello. I'm having trouble with racing thoughts. My boyfriend broke up with me citing family issues and stress. We were aquaintances for 2 years, did some light traveling together, barely spoke and hung out every few months in group setings. We only dated shy of 9 months. He is my first boyfriend,Im 30. He says he wants to be friends. I tried but it wasnt working for me, to hear the lack of care/distance in his voice left me feeling hollow. Im currently 1 week NC. Im depressed, he says our relationship was new, almost a if I shouldnt be grieving this much...I kind of feel horrible about this. It meant so much to me, he means so much to me. He said he feels more focused without me in the picture. I feel like garbage, yesterdays garbage. He says he loves me. Is this love? He never brought up any issues, never said he was unhappy.Never let me know he was having doubts. He just blew up one day, next day ended it. Is this love?
i.am Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I always believe if he loves me, he won't hurt me. But reality has the better of us at times. And I don't understand why when men are stressed or overwhelmed with issues, they push the one closest to them away. Perhaps they feel the heaviest responsibility over the one closest, hence, he said he is able to focus better without you? Give him some time to let him focus on resolving his issues or himself. He needs time. If you think it's worth it to wait, give him the time. I mean wait doesn't mean you don't move on. Move on and be happy. I know it's hard but guess that's the only thing you can do now, for yourself. *Hugx*
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 This is the exact same situation for me. Nothing was apparently wrong and then magically one day: poof. She doesn't want to be together. And ever since, my thoughts simply have not been calm and together. Racing thoughts all day. all week. the last month. It doesn't stop. I truly hope you find solace somewhere. We can do this!
Author Starapple31 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 I always believe if he loves me, he won't hurt me. But reality has the better of us at times. And I don't understand why when men are stressed or overwhelmed with issues, they push the one closest to them away. Perhaps they feel the heaviest responsibility over the one closest, hence, he said he is able to focus better without you? Give him some time to let him focus on resolving his issues or himself. He needs time. If you think it's worth it to wait, give him the time. I mean wait doesn't mean you don't move on. Move on and be happy. I know it's hard but guess that's the only thing you can do now, for yourself. *Hugx* Thank you. These issues existed before I came in the picture and will perist for a couple of years. *shrugs. I offerred to wait but he shot me down. He made every decision, I have no choice in the matter. I dont know if I can be his friend. Its not healthy for me. I know for a fact that he will find someone,next year or this year, he will have those same problems and Ill resent him for it,to know that he never wanted me around and then went to someone else. Im moving on.
Author Starapple31 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 This is the exact same situation for me. Nothing was apparently wrong and then magically one day: poof. She doesn't want to be together. And ever since, my thoughts simply have not been calm and together. Racing thoughts all day. all week. the last month. It doesn't stop. I truly hope you find solace somewhere. We can do this! Im sorry, very traumatic. We will get through it. I can't wait for the day.
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