LuckyShades Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 So after considering it for a good bit, I finally worked up the guts to take that final step towards cutting her out of my life altogether(dated two years, broke up sunday after VDay). At first I was optimistic that staying friends on facebook would be just fine, but I found that seeing the updates from her now and then and the occasional new picture was just making it 5x harder to move on. She would also do this thing where whenever she changed her profile pic, she would like my status soon after. Almost as if to say "look what I'm doing, don't forget about me." Or maybe she didn't think that at all. I don't care. I just want to be done with it for good. The final straw that convinced me to unfriend her was when Facebook put up a little pop up ad on the side of my profile saying "C____ _____ added 8 new friends, do you know any of them?" My first thought was that's absolutely ridiculous, she's my ex, why do you keep shoving her in my face, facebook? And of course I went and checked who the 8 friends were, and tried to figure out if any were my potential replacement... But needless to say after this I was sure I had had enough. It's gone for good now. Out of sight, out of mind. It really is unfair to keep torturing yourself by viewing updates in their life, now that you're no longer a part of it. But we're no longer friends and I'm sure she'll notice soon enough. It feels like a weight has been let off my shoulders. Just felt like telling you guys. 2
steveT95 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Make sure you block her as well. I thought just deleting her would be fine but I couldn't resist taking an occasional peak at her profile and it was killing me.
Author LuckyShades Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 Make sure you block her as well. I thought just deleting her would be fine but I couldn't resist taking an occasional peak at her profile and it was killing me. Yea I was guilty of doing this from time to time as well. However I did it less and less over the past few weeks, and I feel like this was just the final step. I think outright blocking her is a little extreme though. I think I'll be able to resist the temptation of peeking, and even if I can't, it's not like I'll be able to see what she's posting.
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Dude, that "do you know any of her friends" thing honestly just happened to me to! I feel like Facebook would be smart enough to not show things as much from a person who you went "in a relationship" with "single" with. I mean, really? She was at the top of every list before I blocked her. The chat list, the search bar, THAT new friends thing, etc. So yeah, I wish you luck! We totally got this!
Author LuckyShades Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 Dude, that "do you know any of her friends" thing honestly just happened to me to! I feel like Facebook would be smart enough to not show things as much from a person who you went "in a relationship" with "single" with. I mean, really? She was at the top of every list before I blocked her. The chat list, the search bar, THAT new friends thing, etc. So yeah, I wish you luck! We totally got this! Yes, seriously this, 100 times this! The exact things were happening with me. And whenever I clicked on my profile she was always the first of the 8 sample friends it pulled. Same with fb chat like you. She was always at the top, even when I turned chat off, It would still put her picture among the faded friends. Enough is enough! lol. I just got tired of seeing her face. So now that won't happen anymore. But it does make me feel better that I'm not the only person that facebook is using this senseless mechanism on. 1
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