frostythesnowman Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Hey everyone, it would mean a lot of you could read and respond. Y'all can look at my last posts from a couple years ago if you want a little more background information. Unfortunately, I'm back on these forums 2 years later because of the same girl. I was a junior in high school when I posted, and now I'm a freshman in college. Basically, since middle school, me and this girl have had feelings for each other. We dated for a year in high school, and she broke up with me and dated another guy until college. I was heartbroken, never got over her. Always pursued her, was always available, obviously being my mistakes. I'm not going to go into detail but I have had really strong feelings for her and I still do. While we haven't always been together, we have probably never gone more than 3 weeks without talking in some way or another. She broke up with her other boyfriend going into college and for a while I ignored her texts. I ended up texting her eventually and she wanted to hangout during our first break. Instead, she hung out with the other guy. On the most recent break, we hung out, and as sad as it is, it was probably the best day I have had in a while. I haven't felt so happy and so content with myself as I did in those few hours. After going back to school, talking to her every day now, she tells me she plans on hanging out with the other guy a few days later. Of course this does not sit well with me, so I ask her what exactly the point of talking to me is, and I break off whatever we were doing. I'm posting here because we are about to get off for summer break, and both of us will be home. It sucks that I still have feelings for her, it really does. In all honesty, its pathetic. If you can't tell from the last couple paragraphs, she's done more harm to me than good. Last summer was a catastrophe- I had it in my mind that it was my last chance to actually spend time with her, and she ended up giving me false hope that she was going to break up with her boyfriend and hang out with me for the last few weeks. Instead, I ended up more broken hearted than ever. I get it, I'm in college and it shouldn't be like this. I should be over her, but I'm not. I just want to be happy this summer, and I don't want to be depressed out of my ass like last. But at the same time, there is this burning part inside of me that knows she is single and wants to try and be with her. Who knows, what if we hang out a couple times, she gets hooked, and we can have a summer together. But then again, the likely hood of this happening is next to nothing. Its obvious that I need to get over her, but its hard when she texts me every few days, leads me in to want her, and then slowly draws back when she knows I'm interested. I need some motivation, I want to be happy more than anything. I just can't convince myself that I will be happier without her than if somehow I could be with her- because I don't know if that's true. Anyways, thanks for reading this. It really means a lot and I hope I can get some good advice.
outsidethebox Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 just be playful and tease her when she texts you. Text her yourself other times. Be assertive. Don't care if she answers or not. Have fun. Have fun with her. Be fun for her to communicate with you and be with you. Fun as in light hearted and not serious, not giggly and silly. Don't worry about keeping track of who did what when. If she likes the way you make her feel, she will gravitate to you. If she doesn't, nothing is going to change that. Especially don't worry about what she does with anyone else. She probably tells you that just to make you jealous.
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 One-itis bro. We've all been there. Ya gotta move on.
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