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I met this guy online about 2 weeks ago, since then we have been talking on the phone almost everyday for a couple of hours. Before I met him, I already liked him, he told me the same.

 

So we met up 2 days ago for dinner and again the next day for dinner and a day out. That day, we held hands and he kissed me. He told me how much he liked me, how beautiful I was, and he seems really keen. He seems like a good guy. He asked me if we can be exclusive... I said I'd be happy to... this has never happened to me before. Things moving this fast!! He also asked me to come to dinner with his friends on the weekend... even meeting the friends is quite fast.

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy :) , just not used to it... we are both 23.

 

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  • Is it normal for us to become exclusive at this pace? After 2 dates... even though we have been talking for a bit longer...
  • What does he mean by exclusive exactly?
  • Does exclusive = BF/GF status?

BluEyeL Established Member

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Exclusive means you don't date other people. He really likes you, I don't know if it's too soon, it doesn't matter,just pay attention to how he's treating you.

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I met this guy online about 2 weeks ago, since then we have been talking on the phone almost everyday for a couple of hours. Before I met him, I already liked him, he told me the same.

 

So we met up 2 days ago for dinner and again the next day for dinner and a day out. That day, we held hands and he kissed me. He told me how much he liked me, how beautiful I was, and he seems really keen. He seems like a good guy. He asked me if we can be exclusive... I said I'd be happy to... this has never happened to me before. Things moving this fast!! He also asked me to come to dinner with his friends on the weekend... even meeting the friends is quite fast.

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy :) , just not used to it... we are both 23.

 

Questions:

 

  • Is it normal for us to become exclusive at this pace? After 2 dates... even though we have been talking for a bit longer...
  • What does he mean by exclusive exactly?
  • Does exclusive = BF/GF status?

 

 

 

if you are happy with exclusivity then it is right for you....no i dont think its too soon, if he treats you well, you feel happy when you are with him, be exclusive see how it goes......enjoy his company and feel good about being with him if he treats you right.......best of luck...being exclusive doesnt mean bf gf it means you dont date others.......deb

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So it's not too fast?

 

And I take it dating exclusive is the precursor of bf/gf status?

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todreaminblue Established Member

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So it's not too fast?

 

And I take it dating exclusive is the precursor of bf/gf status?

 

 

 

 

if everything progresses he likes you more, you like him more and it feels right and good....down the track....it should happen that way.....deb

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How long till bf/gf status is usual/normal... timeframe wise?

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The talking everyday for a couple of hours is like a date every day. That's getting to know each other. You have to be comfortable with each other to do that. It's all good.

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Does exclusive = BF/GF status?

 

To me, it does. I don't get what the difference would be.

 

And, you know, not to crap on your happiness or anything, but things moving that fast would concern me. Lots of controlling men like to push things early on. So watch out for that, I guess.

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Being exclusive does not equal boyfriend girlfriend.Being exclusive is continuing to get to know one another without going off and getting to know someone else. Lol

 

 

There is no time frame for either. Different strokes for different folks. My man and I were exclusive probably after a few days (we spent every day together) and were boyfriend girlfriend not long after. :)

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If you're happy focussing on just one person and happy to turn down any other offers that come along then it's not too fast. If it makes your spider senses tingle then it's too fast.

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I met this guy online about 2 weeks ago, since then we have been talking on the phone almost everyday for a couple of hours. Before I met him, I already liked him, he told me the same.

 

So we met up 2 days ago for dinner and again the next day for dinner and a day out. That day, we held hands and he kissed me. He told me how much he liked me, how beautiful I was, and he seems really keen. He seems like a good guy. He asked me if we can be exclusive... I said I'd be happy to... this has never happened to me before. Things moving this fast!! He also asked me to come to dinner with his friends on the weekend... even meeting the friends is quite fast.

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy :) , just not used to it... we are both 23.

 

Questions:

 

  • Is it normal for us to become exclusive at this pace? After 2 dates... even though we have been talking for a bit longer...
  • What does he mean by exclusive exactly?
  • Does exclusive = BF/GF status?

 

It seems way over the top.

Yes, I'd expect him to introduce you to his friends as his girlfriend.

 

Obviously he can't get any other girls or he'd be a little more savvy, this is way too fast and would scare off most people.

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To me, it does. I don't get what the difference would be.

 

And, you know, not to crap on your happiness or anything, but things moving that fast would concern me. Lots of controlling men like to push things early on. So watch out for that, I guess.

 

Yes, I agree, you need to watch out how he treats you, be alert. Pushing for quick involvment is one of the signs of an abuser. But not necessarily. So far, so good, just keep your eyes open and notice how he treats you and how he treats people around him, not just you.

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Hey, what is happening to you is amazing! :) I don't think there is a set formula as to how fast things are supposed to go. Enjoy it.

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Hey, what is happening to you is amazing! :) I don't think there is a set formula as to how fast things are supposed to go. Enjoy it.

Thanks :) I know it may be too fast (can be good or bad sign) but I am quite happy... Honestly, I tend to be the pushy one asking the guy for commitment.. I guess I'm just not used to this happening to me !

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If you're happy, go for it! I knew by the end of our second date that my man was the one for me. He claims to have known by the end of the first date. We didn't "have the talk" about exclusivity, it was just kind of understood. But, our ages (50/45) may have had something to do with that. (We also spent a great deal of time on the phone before even going on that first date, six hours at a time!)

 

Wedding countdown: nine days! :D

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