BLS Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 About 50 mins ago my ex of about a month (w/ 8 days NC except for school) called me. She called again 1 minute ago followed by texts saying, "hey its me. its nothing bad or big but can i just talk to you for a second please" shortly followed by another saying "it'll only be a second and I swear I wont bother you again. please" What should I do? I have not responded as of right now. It's about 930pm.
andi23009u782 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 maybe you can ask her what the issue, its better to stay here do nothing and wondering what happened right?
Larry Walker Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) Don't you DARE reply tonight. She wants an ego boost. Reply in 3 days. And reply with a simple "'sup?" Edited April 26, 2013 by Larry Walker 4
youngnlove89 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 About 50 mins ago my ex of about a month (w/ 8 days NC except for school) called me. She called again 1 minute ago followed by texts saying, "hey its me. its nothing bad or big but can i just talk to you for a second please" shortly followed by another saying "it'll only be a second and I swear I wont bother you again. please" What should I do? I have not responded as of right now. It's about 930pm. These threads always make my heart jump...until I click on them and realize it's NOTHING important. Ignore her. Do you see how she said, "I won't bother you again"? That's the ding, ding, ding you shouldn't overlook! She probably just wanted to tell you that the guy she just had sex with used your condoms you bought and he said he will buy you more... Is that what you want to hear? Then you'll be back on here WISHING you didn't respond. Do yourself a favor bud. 2
Author BLS Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 UPDATE: She called 2 more times. Then sent a text saying something along the lines of "nevermind it was nothing important. forget i even called, you dont need to text or call back" I have no intention of calling/texting back. But I must see her in school tomorrow. How should I act, what should I do? Thank you for the responses so far.
Author BLS Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 maybe you can ask her what the issue, its better to stay here do nothing and wondering what happened right? Do you really think calling back is a good idea...? I was expecting people to re-inforce my idea of NOT calling back.
LumberJack Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 She probably just wanted to tell you that the guy she just had sex with used your condoms you bought and he said he will buy you more... HA! That's funny 'cause it's true
Am4Real Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 You received solid advice from two posters on the perils of calling her back. Youngnlove was even more specific with what she probably wanted (excluding the condom comment of course). Bottom line, if she needed something from you, like her last load of laundry she left with you or some school book, she would have put it in the text. Leave it alone. You'll see her tomorrow as you suspect and she will ask if you received her texts you can simply say "yes, but was tied up with friends for the evening" or "yes, I did but honestly I do not want to talk with you, I'm moving on" or some other brush off. If you engage in conversation I'm sure you will be let down with some trivial bullsh&t message. Your choice now... 1
Author BLS Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 You received solid advice from two posters on the perils of calling her back. Youngnlove was even more specific with what she probably wanted (excluding the condom comment of course). Bottom line, if she needed something from you, like her last load of laundry she left with you or some school book, she would have put it in the text. Leave it alone. You'll see her tomorrow as you suspect and she will ask if you received her texts you can simply say "yes, but was tied up with friends for the evening" or "yes, I did but honestly I do not want to talk with you, I'm moving on" or some other brush off. If you engage in conversation I'm sure you will be let down with some trivial bullsh&t message. Your choice now... Thank you. Definitely something I needed to hear.
Larry Walker Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 UPDATE: She called 2 more times. Then sent a text saying something along the lines of "nevermind it was nothing important. forget i even called, you dont need to text or call back" I have no intention of calling/texting back. But I must see her in school tomorrow. How should I act, what should I do? Thank you for the responses so far. Good job! She is thinking about you right now. Don't reply. when you see her, don't even mention it. If she mentions it just say "I was busy" and change the subject. It will drive her crazy, and she will want you.
Larry Walker Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Also, don't say anything abotu "moving on" or any of that jazz.... it shows you are butthurt. Just a simple "I was busy". Say no more about it.
andi23009u782 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Do you really think calling back is a good idea...? I was expecting people to re-inforce my idea of NOT calling back. maybe just ingore it, will be a good idea. but you will see her tomorrow, kind of awkward.
andi23009u782 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Good job! She is thinking about you right now. Don't reply. when you see her, don't even mention it. If she mentions it just say "I was busy" and change the subject. It will drive her crazy, and she will want you. right!! good idea!
portableversion Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) yeah ignore it, you guys don't have kids together so don't do it, its vague. With my ex we got kids so its been difficult, but anymore I just ignore it anyway. its never been anything that mattered to me. One time she left me a message I have some good new for you. it was some lame ass bs of her new job. I said uh that was important to you, if it was important to me it would be hey im no longer with my bf and I want to try us out and reunite the family how do we do this. I said dont confuse what's important to you as something that is important to me, I felt so disappointed with the convo, it was mentally damaging Its usually been bs and lies and games to mess with me. never anything of substance well usually she wants something she has problems and has no one to talk to or wants money, never been anything of substance of like I miss you and want to work it out. yeah they wanted out they need to be specific don't settle for gray area bs it will just crush you while they laugh it off shagging their new partner. This is a broken world seems many of the dumpers are just cruel inhumane people that torment the dumpees, its as if the pain of break up is not enough they got to just inflict more and more pain and misery, just sick twisted people. Edited April 26, 2013 by portableversion
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